I'm a 23 year female, and while growing I had a wonderful man in my life who as treated me as his birth child since I was 5 years old. My real dad was never really there. He left my mother when I was 5 month to live in another state, so you know how that can be. He was never there when I was sick, during school funchion, birthdays or anything. I tried forgiving him, and I tried to form a father-daughter relationship with him, but when I see the way he treat my two little sister from another marriage it make me sick all over again. He is doing the same things to them that he did to me. They live in another state from which he lives, and they talk to him may once every other months. It hurts me so bad! I don't even talk to him anymore. I talk to my sisters every other day. We are very close, but our father is no where to be found. Should I fine it in my hurt to forgive him and try to fix our relations, or finish living my life with the father whou has been raisng me all fo these year?
2006-10-13 08:54:50 · 8 answers · asked by Heaven 2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have done thing wrong some men are just not cut out to be a dad. "Any man can be a father but it takes a real man to be a DAD". You have a dad that loves u no matter what that wants to be in your life. If your dad really wanted to be a part of your life he would have by now. I think u should just for get about the father that u have and think about the dad that is in your life. You need to keep in touch with ur sister. And move on with your life. Just be thankful that u have a mom and dad i didnt have either one of mine. i cant tell u what to do but look at this way he as not been there for u the past 23 years do u think he is going to be there for the next 23 years? that is something to think about do u want to go threw the hurt of him leaving again? good luck in what ever u do.
2006-10-13 09:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by whiteangel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your natural father is real scum bag. I had one like that to, but he died when i was six. If you can track your father down, I'd to it and give him a piece of your mind. You owe that to yourself. I would also suggest you seek counseling for this. Time heals all wounds and forgiving him would be the best thing to do, but thats tough to do when he abandonned you as well as another family. What a useless turd he is. Stick with your step dad. I wish you the best dear.
2006-10-13 09:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your step dad. My father is just like this and it hasn't worked. If your father wants a relationship with you, then let him make the next move. Sorry!
2006-10-13 09:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did your part and at least something good did come out of the situation...youi got to know your sisters and have formed a bond with them and thats great...i would say move on and continue building your relationship with your sisters
2006-10-13 10:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by debbiedamnimgood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things are fixable some arent this might be one of them accept it and move on
2006-10-13 08:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you sould always obey them b/c I didn't that much and now he died and I feel sad that I didn't so odo what ever but love them!!!!!!! B/c I hate my self b/c of it!!
2006-10-13 08:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by mandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be the one trying, he should if he really care for you. I'm sorry.
2006-10-13 08:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by woowee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ALWAYS forgive and try to forget!
~*~Allison~*~
2006-10-13 09:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by Allison 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋