Ok so there's this girl on my cross country team (she's pretty much the reason I started running). She's in my grade (10th) and we are good friends. We always talk and hang out at practice. The problem is, I like her. She has a boyfriend in 9th grade and from what I can tell I spend a lot more time with her than he does. I told her my feelings, and it seemed like she felt bad that she was going with this guy and she didn't want to hurt me and was basically saying how I'll find someone that will make me way happier than she ever could. The fact is, she is wrong. I know it's so cliche to say, but she really is perfect, everything I look for in a girl. I don't think she likes me like I like her, but I'm just wondering if I can get her to like me or if she just doesn't want to say she likes me to hurt the other guy. Bascially I wonder if he current relationship is keeping us apart or if she really just doesn't like me, and if not, then how can I get her to like me?
2006-10-13 08:53:35 · 6 answers · asked by Greg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When she does break up with this other guy, what should I do? Also how can I get her to hang out with me more outside of school and xc?
2006-10-13 09:04:22 · update #1
In cases like these, only time can tell. Keep her as a friend and see what happens. If she breaks up with her bf, then you'll be the next in line to take his place. Otherwise, forget her and go for another woman. She might seem to be the "perfect" one now, but, trust me, there will always be another "perfect" one in the future.
2006-10-13 09:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't like you like that. She is trying to not hurt your feelings. I say give it a rest for a couple months. Don't talk to her as much and distance yourself. She may take you for granted. If she wants to know what's going on tell her your feelings can't change and she is not willing to give you what you need right now so it hurts too much to spend time with her. She might miss you and start pursuing you. Make her work to get you. You are awesome and she passed on her chance to get you easily. Hopefully she is happy with her little boyfreind because she can't have both. In the mean time start saying hi to new girls, ask a question to a girl you never talk to in your classes. You'll come out a winner either way.
2006-10-13 09:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by scotto destructo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only true question is that "time will tell". You have seen the movie 13 going on 30? Well, over time is when feelings will either grow or sink. If she does like you like you, then she will realize that, hopefully sooner than later...I realized too late that I loved another, now we are with different people and we don't talk anymore, but I sure think about him everyday....Maybe she doesn't like you like that and just was trying to put your mind at ease without the harsh, "hahahaha". Sometimes that is the normal response to serious feelings. I wish you luck....just take time, maybe her "relationship" with this younger kid will end soon and you may have your shot...if not, just keep being her friend.
2006-10-13 08:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by cdb774 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just give her some time. If she and him break up, she already knows who wants to go out with her. Else, there has to be someone else on XC for you. Someone you look at but never really see, as the country song goes
2006-10-13 08:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The current relation is keeping you both apart. The best thing to do will be to have her as a friend. Slowly try to win her by being compassionate and affectionate. Best of luck!!
2006-10-13 08:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by kewl dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out then
2006-10-13 08:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋