My mate (she's 17 in December) got drunk and got taken off in an ambulance, and now her mum doesn't trust her. We were planning on going on holiday in half term, but now her mum won't let her. How can we get her mum to trust her again before half term? Thanks! xx
2006-10-13 08:46:57 · 10 answers · asked by xbottledxinsanityx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't blame your friend's mum for not trusting her. It is your friend's mum's responsibility to make sure her daughter is safe at all times. As you may know alcohol is a huge problem, especially among young women, your friend's body, at just 16 is even less able to handle the effects of alcohol than a grown woman. After all if your friend was a mature and responsible young lady she never would have got herself into such a dangerous situation. Do you know that any woman who drinks more than 2 half pints, or the equivalent, at any one time, increase their risk of contracting breast cancer by a massive 40% ? It's a risk I certainly wouldn't be prepared to take. Your friend must learn to stop abusing her body otherwise she will get such a bad reputation and I wouldn't think she would want to be known as the local slag. There are so many ways to have fun, without risking your life and killing your brain cells. I hope you can act mature enough to realise why her mum is refusing for her to go on holiday, she must accept this as final. Trust has to be earned.
I hope everything works out well but don't allow your friend to nag her mum - that will not achieve anything.
2006-10-13 09:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best punishment for misbehaviour is disappointment. Lets face it, can you blame her Mum, knowing how the English behave on holiday?
It's the best thing she can do to protect her daughter, and teaching her to behave like an adult. If she lets her go on holiday, she will know full well she will not drink or behave responsibly.
Tough luck on this one I'm afraid. I would advise her Mum no way give in! She is very fortunate to have a Mum to take a tough stand.
By the way, iloveaech, we Brits spell it MUM. Don't be so rude in future.
2006-10-13 10:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes and I bet your friend regrets it now. But it will take a while for her Mum to fully trust her again. She could try sitting down with her and explaining how stupid she feels and she won`t drink on holiday but only if she means it cos Mums seem to have second sight about these things.
2006-10-13 08:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should sit down with her mum and have an honest, adult conversation. She should tell her mother that it was a one-off and that she was stupid. All teenagers do silly stuff (i am sure her mum did!) Basically her mum is just worried about her and needs reassurance.
2006-10-13 08:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all its mom not mum and 2 bad no 1 cares
2006-10-13 09:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is earned not given. And it's going to take some time. But she better not drink or anything like that and obey her mom. Then after she's been good for a while, kindly ask. I dunno if she'll let her go but make sure she doesnt misbehave again or she isn't going anywhere. Good luck!
2006-10-13 08:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hiya, i know the thrill of drinkin wen ur younger is exciting but maybe your friend isnt mature enough to go on holiday alone. im 20 so not an old fart but your friend sounds childish,tell her to remember in future to stop drinking when shes had enough. its not difficult
2006-10-13 08:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Rach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mate needs to learn to respect her mom and her moms rules . then maybe after a while she will be able to regain her mom's trust it wont be easy but can be done.
2006-10-13 08:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ouch
oh well
happens :)
2006-10-13 08:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by BeeBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry kid but your just gonna have to suck it up
2006-10-13 23:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by silly billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋