is it really possible for a relationship to survive an encounter where guy wants to watch his girl get it on with another girl/or guy? My guy gets so turned on with the thought of watching me with another guy. I get turned on only on how turned on he is and have almost gave in because of that. He says it will make things stronger? I am scarred that he will think things are going on always without him and fear that he will want to explore maybe without me or? ConFuSED
2006-10-13 08:31:09 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the thing is in his head or thoughts, everything will be perfect,
but in real life he might not like some other man doing things to you, or what if you really like it then he might feel strange, and keep asking you if that other guy was better?
what if the other guy hurts you or is too rough with you, what do you do then?
it's one of those things that are always better in the mind then in real life..
2006-10-13 08:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a fantasy to watch your other half indulge with another partner. It does not always turn out that way. You said it when you questioned the fact he or she might be thinking thier partner might be doing this behind thier back. It takes a speciel relationship, and exceptional loving couples to play this game and servive. If there is any hint of jeleousy in the relationship, its time to keep it just what it is, a fantasy. Once its played out, there is no going back. You can throw the blame everywhere but it will still be a strain on the relationship. My wife and myself have ingaged in this activity a handful of times and have both injoyed and found it fun to referance it to each other at later dates. We do not have a open marrage, but we have injoyed the threesome incounter the few times it happed. And thats exactly how we want it. Few times. Don't get it to be a habbit, do it for love and if it dont inhance the relationship, your not doing it for the right reasons. A fantasy is a good thing, but sometimes if all the pieces don't fit in in the puzzle, its best left to be a fantasy.
2006-10-13 08:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by megofish2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys want to watch 2 girls not another guy. But hey, whatever turns a person on. Make things stronger, I dont think so. It is just a dream a lot of people have.
In the future it will lead to him thinking you are going out on him or having an affair (if your married).
2006-10-13 08:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I can say that I kind of have this problem. My husband has always wanted us to have a threesome, but with another girl. I don't want to and never will. I know people that have done it first hand and it has ruined their relationships. They either start not trusting each other or they fall for the other person. I know that some couples do like to do it and it may spice up their marriages, but is it worth it? You want to be the only person that your significant other thinks about and is with. I know that from threesomes comes the whole wife swapping thing and so on. I only want to be with my husband and I want him to only be with me. Good luck with whatever happens and whatever you decide to do. Is it worth it your pride?
2006-10-13 08:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by h05ellasmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships can and do survive that kind of thing. But it's up to the couple. You've got some ligitimate concerns. Talk to your guy about them. See if he can do anything to relieve those concerns. If I might suggest, have him pick the guy, so he can choose someone who he doens't think you're going to run off with, and agree to always be together when things are happening.
2006-10-13 08:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a combination of curiosity and arousal... every guy I know has expressed an interest in being involved in a threesome. However, some guys, myself included, are only interested in 2 girls/1 guy threesomes. There's something really odd to me about, the "high fiving" behind the girl's back thing.... ugh...
Anyway, it's exciting. Plain and simple. Ask your guy friends!!
2006-10-13 08:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by otc108 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. You are being asked to sell yourself short for the sake of your b/f's fantasy. Your relationship may survive but at the sake of choosing a path that is not only unhealthy, it is somewhat perverse. Grab some self-respect and quit letting sex dictate your relationships with men.
Girls are way too easy these days. They they wonder why men don't respect them.
2006-10-13 08:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my boyfriend wants to have a threesome with another girl and i refuse because i know i would get jealous. as for doing it with another guy, i still wouldn't do it because of the possibility of jealousy or "feeling" something unexpected. what if this new guy is "better" in bed than your boyfriend, etc? the dynamics of the whole thing just don't seem to work for me.
2006-10-13 08:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why could you even ask a query like that in case you do not probable opt for to nicely known the respond? You knew there become a threat that he could have an answer like that and now you're mad? You asked a query, he replied it actual...what precisely did you opt for him to assert? next time, do not ask a query if the respond could disillusioned you. additionally, your generalized remark on "how twisted adult men are" is insulting.
2016-11-28 04:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the relation will go stronger for a moment. but will cause u guys loose respect in one - anothers heart.
but it won't last.
later u guys will start to have doubt against eachother that u have been doing it in absence of him or her.
thats for sure.
believe me.. its gonna happen. may be not verry verry soon but eventually a moment will come when there will be no respect for each other and no faith.
2006-10-13 08:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by coldfish85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋