Our subdivision is full of stay-at-home moms and many are friends with me, but I find it so crazy that they don't take the time to shower before we all take our kids to the bus stop (our kids go to a Charter school outside of our distict and the bus is required to pick them up..were not just being lazy) They catch the bus a 8:40...I have enought time to get my two kids dressed and fed and help my husband get out the door and shower myself (and I'm 6 months prego!) I'm not trying to say I'm so fresh and so clean but is that how other stay at home moms are? Why is that?
2006-10-13 08:27:21 · 20 answers · asked by Santa B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
not all ppl are like that .. i wont go out of my house unless i am, clean and dressed nice and make up and all that... but alot of ppl dont care what they look like. i have seen ppl in the stores with pajamas on and slippers.. i just cringe.. i understand your question completely.
2006-10-13 08:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by sunflower23 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
do you understand what has just happened with the right of habeus corpus in America? i ask this, tho you may not think it's related, because some people are more into reading and learning than making sure they're showered before they take the kids out. Other people may want a nice leisurely shower once the kids are gone. Others may plan gardening or washing the dog after the kids go.
sounds to me like you feel a little intimidated in your new environment and you are the type to put down others in order to feel better. you should grow up, cause you'll enjoy yourself and others a lot more.
It's hunky dory wonderful that you are able to meet your personal standards of grooming by 8 in the morning, even being pregnant, but you know what? other people find this thing that is so important to you insignificant.
in fact, those smelly moms might be wondering how you will be able to give enough time to your upcoming newborn with your obsession on routines, cleanliness, and still working. they might wonder why you don't know fascism has come to america, but you're freshly showered.
see,everyone's got opinions and attitudes. yours is pretty silly and will get in the way of making human connections.
2006-10-13 08:48:37 · answer #2 · answered by cassandra 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that they didn't shower the night before? You know many people do that, so they don't have to go to bed dirty.
What makes you think that they are not dressed up to your standards? I mean that is how your question makes it seem you feel.
If I was just taking my kid to the bus stop, I certainly wouldn't get all dolled up just for the other moms. Maybe the time that you spend in the shower and getting dressed, they are cooking a big breakfast, or fixing their daughters hair really cute, or who knows what.
Point is, if a mom is not going outside of the house other than to the bus stop, maybe they don't care what they look like.
2006-10-13 11:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We're not all morning people! I would rather shower after I've taken time to do the morning dishes, pick up, make beds, etc. I also go to the gym in the morning, and definitely won't shower before that. I would never go an entire day without a shower, but I rarely take one before 10 or 11 in the morning.
2006-10-13 11:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why does it matter? is impressing the Joneses( in this case you) the priority or getting the kids prepared for the day fed and off to school? you don't know what else they have to do and when .and not everyone is so organized as you. or a morning person..
are they Nice people? good moms?.
maybe concentrate on things far more important than the lack of designer wear at the bus stop.
2006-10-13 09:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by macdoodle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, your routine my alter once you have the third
baby. Some Moms would rather take at night after kids
go to bed or maybe after kids go to school. I use to put them in front of TV and take my shower, the ones that
stayed home! And once they all went to school, then I always took before they left for school, because I would
go out and do errands.
2006-10-13 09:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
kudos to you! but some of us other moms are struggling to get out the door with just our 2 kids ready. Really, seriously, it takes me a long time to get my two up and ready(0 and 2) and then the extra time of getting into the car can sometimes make me late for my gym class that starts at 9! I myself am appalled but it is not like I am being lazy or anything it just takes me a long time.
2006-10-13 08:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by Tetsi 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they don't really care what people think of them that early in the morning. I know I don't. Props to you for getting showered and ready but not everyone is like that. When I have a day off I don't really get dressed and ready until about noon. (unless I have to be somewhere) Maybe they are more concerned with other things. No biggie!
2006-10-13 08:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by Amaya 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most days I get up and shower before the kids get up but I know that some days I'm going to be cleaning or just want to sleep to the last possible minute so I don't always get my shower til I get home from dropping my kid off. I wouldn't ever go in somewhere without one though! ;-) But really it isn't your business when someone gets their shower.
2006-10-13 08:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has different schedules, and different times when we do things. When I was a stay at home mom, I used to get the kids off to school, then take time for myself while things were quiet. That was when I took time to shower, and do other "me" stuff, when there were no demands on me. Get off their case.
2006-10-13 08:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by kj 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they dont get up as early as you do and dont think that they need to shower while making sure that there kids and husbands are getting ready and out the door....Some people like to shower early some like to shower later
2006-10-13 08:38:22 · answer #11 · answered by The gr8t alien 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋