I think society makes me feel lonlier than I really am. I have two good friends and they are male, but I've only had one girlfriend and we broke up 2 months ago. Now I feel really bad and alone, but don't know why. I definately not ready to start a family and all that, but on friday nights I go to the movies and I see everybody with couples or on tv everybody has a date. Should I feel bad? or is this society putting pressure on me?
2006-10-13 08:26:30 · 17 answers · asked by joshooog 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not only does TV and everything tell you that you have to have a girlfriend or boyfriend...they tell you that you gotta be sleeping with them too. Don't give in to all that garbage. Don't get yourself so desperate about needing to have a significant other. Enjoy your life. Do things that interest you. Improve yourself.
2006-10-13 08:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by Svieta 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it's society that adds pressure to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. A lot of people think that you are no one unless you have someone.
I don't believe that being someone is a way to make yourself "fit" in with society. I believe that if you really love who you are, and live like you want to, then it doesn't matter. People think that being with someone defines them, but YOU define YOU!
Forget everyone else, as long as there are people who love you, like your family, and your close friends, then you won't be lonely! Besides, you can find other people who don't need anyone to define them and have fun being single!
The single life is fun!
2006-10-13 08:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by marypaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I felt the same when I went to the movies and out because I saw all these guys with their girls. Now, I am married so not alone.
Yes, society does put pressure but it is up to you. I say, you wait for the woman who was born for you and don't care about what others think. Its our life and we decide. If you are not ready, then wait.
Anyway, good luck and hope you get a good girl
2006-10-13 08:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its the way of the world, if everybody seems to be in a couple or doing something youre not, you feel left out and isolated. Its natural to feel the way you do because If you lived in an envoirnment were evrybody wasnt in couples i reckon you wouldnt feel so left out. You shouldnt feel bad(which i know is easy for me to say). Try do stuff and get on with your life, it does work.
2006-10-13 09:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Eoin B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I think everyone goes through this. Being lonely can make you focus on not having a significant other, but it also has it perks ... you can get in alot of "me" time. Have an opportunity to get things done and feel like you have accomplished something. I think what helped me in this lull is staying busy, new hobbies or what not. Keep your head up ... :)
2006-10-13 08:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by miamoreshay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its all society. some of my friends pressure people into feeling the need to have a bf/gf. but some of my friends pressure the opposite and don't get y u need someone.
its all society
u should nvr need someone to complete u, u can into this world alone, u'll die alone, u should b able to live alone.
besides, when ur single- u can party it up w/ EVERYONE
2006-10-13 08:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by neverland22 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is you putting pressure on yourself. Just because you see people paired up doesn't mean you have to be. You are not the only person who is alone. I say good for you. Enjoy the time you have to yourself, while you still have it.
2006-10-13 08:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Val 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends how you look at things. on one hand i say yes because you look at all the other relationships that are going great and in most cases you want that it were you and on the other hand no because the society should make you want to want anything only you should want whats best for you and not what you see from other people you feel.?.
2006-10-13 08:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by O.E.S. Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I hear more and more men that say that "they don't want to be in a relationship" or "i don't want a girlfriend". If you are happy just doing you, then so be it. You shouldn't feel bad. When the right girl comes along you will feel different.
2006-10-13 08:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by drubaby32698 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a combination of both. I can understand that you would feel lonely after a breakup, but seeing other couples everywhere just makes it worse.
2006-10-13 08:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by Famous Amos {not the cookies} 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋