People have been asking this guy I like if he likes me for a while. He has said yes! However, he would start blushing and smiling this weird smile whenever anyone brought up the matter. Now, whenever someone says we're a couple, he seems to be really shy about it. I am too! I try talking to him like I do to other boys, but when I'm near him, my heart starts pounding so fast, and I don't know what's going to happen next! His friends always tell me, "Hey, he's NEVER really loved a girl before. He's really nervous about it, and he REALLY likes you, so he doesn't want to say the wrong thing!" Is there a way I can talk to him normally? I mean, for the two days we've been known as "bf/gf", we haven't had ONE normal conversation. Anyone out there with previous experience that can help me? Any boys that know what it's like to by shy like he is? What about girls? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY, PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-13 08:25:27 · 11 answers · asked by PrettyKitty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A lot of his AND even MY friends have been pestering him about it, by saying things like, "Dude, go up and talk to her!" or, "You know you love her, go and talk to her NOW!!!!!!!!" and even, "Come on, man, she needs to talk to you!" I have been thinking about this and I wonder if I should tell them to stop...?
2006-10-13 08:28:55 · update #1
i suggest doing all u can to make him feel Comfortable.. if he is shy, nervous, don't laugh at him, don't roll ur eyes or get irritated...be patient, caring and try to encourage him to speak more, joke around w/ him more... if u have to ask him to hang out sometime, do it.... as long as he gets over his shyness, it's ok to make the first move for now. i know most girls like it when the guy does it, but if he is sweet and why, u can teach him slowly How to be more Confident and take more initiative.. sometimes guys need a little "push" from a girl they LIKE (they don't listen to friends or whatever cuz they're too shy/scared!)
:)
good luck!
2006-10-13 08:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truly, i really do not imagine she's in touch in you. If she were, she does no longer waste a lot time getting mad at her boyfriend and may want to have realized by technique of now and it replaced into YOU she beloved...if she did truly like you. Plus, i imagine she's very, very wondered about what she needs in the present day - is it miraculous out with you or going out with another guy she met? you've for sure been smitten, yet do not waste some time pining after her at the same time as she tries to make up her recommendations. flow on, there are countless different women accessible who received't waste some time by technique of dawdling on the fence.
2016-12-04 19:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that no matter what he says, it won't change your opinion of him. Because you like him. He will not do anything like that, because he is too shy. So you have to take the initiative. You have to be the one making the first move. Just make him comfortable around you by letting him know that he has no reason to be scared. He's got nothing to lose.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 08:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, calm down, you need to open the lines of communication, just a bit. It's Friday night, invite him to a movie, but plan a head, and find the movie, and time. Walk up to him, and say " hey met me at 7:40 at some movie place, I want to see whatever" or rent a movie, and hang out at home, make sure his friends aren't there, it won't take too much for him to open up, You could get a ride home from him, or he could walk you home, and start talking about dumb stuff till he learns to open up to you, hey stuff like this is makes your teen years memorable, have fun,
2006-10-13 08:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a shy guy for a long time, until this girl came up to me and ask me out, and was a lot more outgoing and after that I really wasnt as shy anymore because I relaized you never knoe unless you ask, you should try to help him out and try not tomake it as akward tell him you reallylike him and so where it goes from there
2006-10-13 08:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by DEREK A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weell, try to get in a situation you two are alone
He's probably nervous because of the others too
So when you are alone, just smile at him and tell him that you want to talk normally because you really like him
Just try predisposing him to telling you himself he likes you
Just try
Good luck ;)
2006-10-13 08:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_fiasco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something that you guys have in common. Movies, bowling, arcades, whatever. When you are both comfortable in what you are doing, you won't be so focused on having the "right" thing to say.
2006-10-13 08:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel. my best advice is to act more like friends than a couple until you guys get confortable being around each other and talking to each other. it will eventually develop over time, just be patient.
2006-10-13 08:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by livinlifeintheoc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him like your friends. tell him about what you want to happen with your life and about your past if he doesnt know. you dont have to go into detail about your past just let him know more about you than he does. maybe then he can open up.
2006-10-13 08:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two have so many friend telling you two thing, find a quiet place, with just the two of you and work things out, holding hand, hugging, kisssing, whatever you know
2006-10-13 08:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋