I'm 40something and he's 21. We work together but have never been intimate. I'm extremely infatuated, an would like to try it out, but co-peers find it distasteful. Family tells me that I would be **** on by a younger man, and co-peers say, I'm chester the molester. Hmmm. If a man, no matter what age finds me attractive, and if I find a guy attractive should I be concerned with age as long as he's an adult? Is age just a number or does it mean alot more than that? No I couldn't provide him children in the future, but should I persue his offer to come visit him at his apartment. Other concern is I haven't been sexually active in over 3yrs. Layin dormant I guess, but he seems to strike a nerve. What should I do? Should I forget about my infatuation. I'm black and he's white. He also is talking to a girl in his own age group, but what does that mean? Does it mean that he's doing what society want?
2006-10-13 08:23:24 · 13 answers · asked by mamaghost2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look at Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. If you don't find anything wrong with them, then go for it! Remember that this is your life. Don't let how other people think affect how you live. Good luck!
2006-10-13 08:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm white and he is black, I am 37 and he is 23. we have been together for 2 years now and are very much in love and happy. You have to do what YOU want to do. You don't have to go into this with thoughts of marriage or a serious relationship. It will become what you let it. Stop worrying about what others say and do what is in your heart. Our families have always been very open minded and we have never had any problems. Good luck in making your choice.
2006-10-13 15:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way that a relationship can work between two people where one of them was out of school and in the job market at the time the other was being born. Enjoy it, but don't think a relationship can work.
2006-10-13 15:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Charge on sweetheart. He would love the experience you could give him.
Just be aware it will not last. Too big an age gap. He isnt going to find a 56 year old sexy when he is 31 is he?
Anyway enjoy him while you can and help him through lifes struggle.
2006-10-13 15:27:33 · answer #4 · answered by SunGod 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say do you,you can't please ppl and don't try!My God your 46 you should know better.And by far he's no kid.If you want to give it a try do it.Just don't kiss and tell.And tell him you expect respect.Even if things don't work out he's to keep his damn mouth shut about what went on between you guys.As long as you guys have that understanding then do what you do momma!And have fun doing it!LOL
2006-10-13 15:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
21 is really young. Sure, he's legally an adult. But 21year olds are still just boys. Get over it and move on with your life.
2006-10-13 15:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Svieta 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Age anit nuttin but a number. You cannot help who you fall in love with as long as he treats you right and the way you wont to be treated.
2006-10-13 15:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go for it. who cares what society thinks, if the tables were turned and you were the younger one it would be almost normal
2006-10-13 15:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by leah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in his prime, so get the most out of the relationship.
2006-10-13 15:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I would do an older chick if she was freaky enough.
2006-10-13 15:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by neptune032701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋