We've know each other for like 5 years, but we actually started dating 3 months ago and his mom died about 2 weeks ago. We are living in two different states, and it's not much I can do physically. I try to talk to him on a daily bases, and sometimes he talk and sometimes he doesn't want to be bothered. He siad it's not me, and that he loves me and he wishes I was there with him. But sometimes when I call him he be with his friends having a good old time as though nothng happen. He said because he doesn't show his real feelings to no one but me. Is he just saying that and maybe the lil feeling we were starting to grow for each other gown sour or do you think he is really sincere in what he said?
2006-10-13 08:23:02 · 3 answers · asked by Heaven 2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a time when you have to stop worrying about you, You and him, and worry about HIM.
His MOTHER just died!
He could be in shock, depressed, guilty, bothered, aggravated, distracted, angry at God and all the above. Sounds like he is drinking to deal with it.
He does not need a girl hanging on him, or being needy, worrried or insecure. He needs you to listen, and not give advice, and not Help- just listen and let him know that you will get throught this together. That YOU are a soft place to land in this awful world.
If he feels that way about you, it could bring you closer. If he doesn't then this stress could end your relationship, but he will always appreciate that you were kind and loving to him when he needed you.
Being unselfish makes you a better person, whether you end up with this guy or that one.
2006-10-13 08:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that its in a long distance relationship........then there's not much you can do to help the bond between you two. His friends are there for him, and they are there around him, physically in the flesh......so he can enjoy himself and get his mind off of his experience that he's going through.......Though I know nothing of the relationship, I would almost guess that the best thing for him to do right now, is to get involved with someone close by.....that can be there for him in all the ways he needs at this time in his life............not trying to be mean or anything, that's just my assumption.............so be careful...........these kind of relationships usually never work.
2006-10-13 15:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people react to death many different ways some hold there feelings inside and others let it all out your boyfriend may be in between the two and needs to be with the people near him the good times you talk of may be a way to ease some of the pain it does not mean that he no longer cares for you
2006-10-13 15:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by midnight mover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋