I'm 40something and he's 21. We work together but have never been intimate. I'm extremely infatuated, an would like to try it out, but co-peers find it distasteful. Family tells me that I would be **** on by a younger man, and co-peers say, I'm chester the molester. Hmmm. If a man, no matter what age finds me attractive, and if I find a guy attractive should I be concerned with age as long as he's an adult? Is age just a number or does it mean alot more than that? No I couldn't provide him children in the future, but should I persue his offer to come visit him at his apartment. Other concern is I haven't been sexually active in over 3yrs. Layin dormant I guess, but he seems to strike a nerve. What should I do? Should I forget about my infatuation. I'm black and he's white. He also is talking to a girl in his own age group, but what does that mean? Does it mean that he's doing what society want?
2006-10-13 08:22:21 · 4 answers · asked by mamaghost2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not just ask him if he is interested in getting to know you.
If you are just looking for a little fun he might be into that. (I don't think you should go this route but I can't stop ya. Emotionally it might be hard on you.)
You will find that the folks who are 20ish are less concerned about interracial couple because generally that generation has less baggage about racial differences.
2006-10-13 08:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For God's sake he's 21 years old. He's old enough to make the first move and ask you out . "If" he were interested in that way, and apparently he's not because he hasn't asked you out right? You're asking for major trouble if you come on to him. Sexual harassment charges are taken very seriously in the work place. And will follow you to your next job if you are terminated for harassing him. It's sounds to me like you are doing alot of fantasying about this guy...in your words..." I couldn't provide him with children in the future..." My God it truly sounds like you're going through a mid life crisis exacerbated by your being suddenly attracted & horney for what you may see as the biggest challenge of your life. Because the icing on your cake is that he's WHITE!!!! He's 20 years younger....he strikes a nerve in you...and by your own conscious admission you're infatuated with him!!! Lady you really need to sit down and talk to someone,,,not your co-workers because beleive me if you do come on to him and their is an internal investigation about "IF" you've sexually harassed him your co -workers already have a ton of information to pass on to who ever conducts the investigation. What you've already told them can and will be manipualted to make you look bad. Fantasies with co-workers of the opposite sex are best keep in your head. Ask any attorney before you completely loose you marbles. If you need a challenge go climb a mountain--- if you meet some stud on the way up ...then you can jump his bones, but only if he gives his conscent!
2006-10-13 08:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Who cares what other people thind.
2006-10-13 08:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by buff831 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably won't work out but you should get your groove gack!
2006-10-13 08:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋