What should I do?

Question

My ex from like 2 years ago wants me back, but he makes me sick to my stomach. But lately I've been thinking I should get a boyfriend, but I'm going through this dry spell (no crushes, no guys seem interested in me) and I'm really hating this loneliness. My sister in law thinks I should give him a 2nd chance since he wasn't a bad guy, she says sometimes you just have to settle. Should I? I mean it's not like other guys are just jumping out of the bushes in a hury to date me.

thanks for all the answers.
The thing is I don't even remember why I left him, I remember that he was nice, respectful, and he really cared about me. But when we dated I just wasn't ready to feel the same way about him. And no I'm not the type who feels I should always have a boyfriend, sometimes you just want to know that someone cares about you. He showed me that then. Every other guy I meet act like they just set them out of the zoo.

Answer 1

NOOOO do not settle.

2nd of all, lol at ur last sentence about jumping out of bushes. :)

first of all, work on yourself first..why do u feel lonely? here's what u do BEFORE u "settle":

1) take care of ur appearance: work out, exercise, buy flattering clothes ,makeup tips, and hair style.. FEEL GOOD about yourself

2) take care of ur brain: study, read more, learn more, find hobbies, excel at them. if ur in school, try hard to do well in class. if u work, try to do well in ur career

3) take care of ur Relationships: w/ family, friends, and eventually friends of friends, and Strangers! remember, as u work on ur Appearance and Mind, u will have more confidence, and more things to talk about w/ others. so u won't be scared to talk to people, u have less to feel shy about.

after all of that, if u still feel lonely and that u need to settle, fine. =T but i sincerley doubt it..the better u feel about urself, the more u will realize that u Deserve a great guy too!! :) don't be cocky, but be happy w/ urself enough to know that u don't NEED to settle for "just anyone" cuz u are a great person, and a great catch!

good luck~

Answer 2

Dry spell? Are you one of those girls that thinks that you just have to have a boyfriend or life isn't right and maybe there's something wrong with you??

So think to yourself...what is it about this guy that makes you sick to your stomach? There must be a reason.

And no, I don't think you should get back together with some guy just to have a boyfriend. That's just plain stupid. Guys aren't accessories.

Spend some time doing worthwhile things with your life. Take up a new hobby...accomplish things that are difficult for you. Do some volunteer work. Spend less time worrying about yourself and try harder do decent things in the world around you.

Answer 3

Listen lonliness sucks! But nothing sucks more than settling, thats why people cheat, do you want to be lonly with someone beside you? Do you want to feel upset that you are taking back your old garbage? reading old news? Come on, don't let this happen, go for it and be happy, go on a trip, take yourself somewhere nice, get a hair cut. Go online and get one of those japanese pillow things with the arm that holds you while you are sleeping. Go to a book signing, a lecture, a coffee shop, just go:) You sound intelligent and I believe you are too intelligent to "just settle" also this is good behaviour because it will show your friends that you are in control and give them a good example. Not enough people are refusing to settle. Good luck

Answer 4

Charmy, no! if he didn't work then he sure wont now ,and no you don't have to be dating to be happy, you have a life time and I admire you for not just jumping back in .trust me ex is just that .when its meant and the right time you will meet the right man for you, no you don't have to settle, not in that way ,being with a ex is not settling and if he makes you sick then for sure not a good idea !.date when you wish be happy with who you are and remember he is a ex for some reason .good luck to you .

Answer 5

Go with your gut. The guy was a loser before and he's a loser now. Settling is why 1/2 of marriages end in divorce. You'll never stop looking for something better and the guilt will get you.

Answer 6

Don't just get back with your ex due to your loneliness. You have to remember, he has feelings like you. Playing games will get someone hurt. Its better to let your ex know exactly how you feel. The right guy will come, you just have to be patient.

Trust me on this one, relationships are not what they are made up to be. Enjoy your single life while you have it.

Answer 7

Well good grief! If you feel this way about him, don't go back to him. He deserves someone who cherishes him and thinks he's special, and you seem to think he's yesterday's leftovers and since there's nothing better out there, just settle for him. Poor guy! Leave him alone. Sit there and get lonely and wait for that "something better" to come along.

Answer 8

Don't you ever settle for less,you already said he makes you sick to your stomach.It won't work Ms.Lady.Don't listen to what people are telling you.You're the one that has to be in this relationship.Don't worry if guys are jumping out of the bush,never settle for less.

Answer 9

Hell no! Honey, there isn't a dry spell long enough to go back to somebody who makes you physically ill. That is most definately a sign that you DONT LIKE HIM. Tell him to go self copulate and try to go to clubs or something. There's somebody for everybody and he's is SO not the one for you.

Answer 10

here is the deal. you stopped seeing him for a reason right? dont lower your self to go back to him, you have goten over him so be just that think of the dry time as a time to learn more about your self if you know what you want and know its the time the man you want will come to you.