When someone seems to blame you for everything that goes wrong, even though they might later change their opinion and tell you it was them...when pretends to do one thing, knowing it's not the way they really feel, ONLY to see what type of reaction they're going to get out of you? What can you do to change this type of relationship when you're in love with someone?
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2006-10-13 08:18:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is emotional and mental abuse. Changing his opinion later doesn't make things better for you or take away the abuse heaped on you and it doesn't stop him from doing it again. This man doesn't love you. If he loved you, he would work to help bring out the best in you and not do bad things to see how far he can go with it to see what you'ill do.
Would you love and respect someone in your neighborhood or on your job who bullies you, abuses you, and blames you for everything bad that happens. No, you wouldn't. Well, it's the same thing here. This man doesn't deserve your love, time or attention. This man is not going to change and the only way you can change this relationship is to get out now.
2006-10-13 12:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by merry59 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone is playing mind games with you. if it has not already it had the potential to becaome toxic i would get out now while u can. You cannot cahnge a realionship if the people in it don't want to change or one of the two doesn't want to change. you may be headed down a slippery slope i would get out before it gets too over the top. It starts really sutble but befroe you know it it will be full on abuse. Why be with some who wants to play games with ur emotions and feelings.
2006-10-13 16:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by mekhia81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is a mild form of emotional abuse. You cannot change someone you love. They have to want to change, and likely they won't even see a problem at all. If you cannot handle it, I would suggest you be good to yourself and move on.
2006-10-13 15:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sugar, you aren't going to be able to change this person. They are always going to blame you, they're always going to look for someone to beat up emotionally. The very best thing you can do is to walk away. Find someone who will treat you like the treasure you are. Don't let yourself be mistreated this way. It'll turn you into a sad person, and you deserve better. Please walk away and leave them alone.
2006-10-13 15:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's emotional abuse and you're probably not ever going to change someone who treats people that way.
2006-10-13 15:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by mkjhfiuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is. I answered your last question. You cannot change it. He has to find it in himself. He is insecure and making you feel less than what you are to bring himself up. Honey, you can love someone and know in your heart you are not meant to be together. You can love someone and know it is not the right time. You can love someone and love yourself more. You need to love yourself more.
2006-10-13 15:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this "someone" is rather childish and in need of growing up. You know what they say about "love"...Love is blind so you might want to get thicker glass'...
2006-10-13 15:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by henry j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with them and tell them how you feel. its really the only way and its something to work out together. just talk and work it out.
2006-10-13 15:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋