Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 11 months and almost everytime we go somewhere, he says something about another girl! It bothers me so much, I talk to him about it but he never really listens to me! H-E-L-P!
2006-10-13 08:17:17 · 39 answers · asked by â? Lindseeâ?¢ [BreakDown]â?¥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump him!!
2006-10-13 08:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say have a talk with him and let him know how it's making you feel... and it seems you've already done that.
At the end of the day, he's your boyfriend and no one elses - which some say should give you peace of mind, but I'd be upset too. If he knows how much it bothers you, he should stop, if he doesn't then he's not respecting you.
If he doesn't respect your wishes about that, who knows what else he'll do down the road.
So either put up with it, or get out of the relationship.
2006-10-13 08:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by PrettyProblem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to have the same problem until I started doing the same thing in front of him. Guys don't think some times that their actions really hurt us. When I got to the point you are I said to my self, the only way he is ever going to feel the way I do is to do the same thing to him. Don't let him keep hurting you, let him know that if this is the way he wants to be then you can do it too. I guarantee the first time you do it will be the last he does.. Good Luck to you!! And stay strong.. Sincerely Talia
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2006-10-13 08:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by Talia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't rest with him, it rests with YOU. Stop caring. This kind of childish behavior doesn't deserve the attention he's wanting. Either YOU start giving back to him what he's giving to you -- flirt with other guys, bring it to his attention -- or dump him and let him go treat another poor girl this way, because you don't deserve it. You're better than that! He's a jerk.
2006-10-13 08:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten Hood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its hard for guys to keep their mind out of the gutter; we mean well, but sometimes its hard to ignore the attention of another girl. You need to tell him that his actions make you not trust him and that you can't be in a relationship were you can't trust the other person. If he ignores that then maybe you are dating the wrong guy.
2006-10-13 08:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, flirting is fine...he can flirt, I can flirt. As long as he doesn't say "Why can't you look like that?" Or "Why don't you wear that or do that?" then we're fine. He can look at the menu but he's got to come home to eat! If you don't give them a bit of freedom, you'll push them away cause you're constricting and suffocating.
2006-10-13 08:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you have a serious relationship with him, discuss it with him and ask him to stop. if he is a "part time" boyfriend, give him an ultimatum and dump him.
as a guy i can tell you that men's # 1 thoughts are about women. however, the older you get, the more serious you are and the more faithful you are to your wife, girlfriend, etc.
trust me, i used to be a pig male before i got married.
2006-10-13 08:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by Texas M.B.A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so direspectful,it seems to me when men have descent women they treat us like s h i t!And the project hoochie momma they treat them like queens.I say you tell his azz if he's going to be about you and only you then he needs to go about things a little different.I don't see nothing wrong with looking,but when they get to makin comments and saying s h i t aloud when you can hear it,then that's when it becomes a problem.You need to clear that up with him or leave his azz.
2006-10-13 08:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He talks to them but doesnt listen to you. I dont know what you should do but I'd walk. Just walk away everytime he does it. Eventually he'll catch on. If you get sick of walking then just keep going he doesnt sound worth it.
2006-10-13 08:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you dont want him if he wants other girls. My bf used to do the same thing. and it hurts. Yes guys are visual and are going to look, but they dont have to put it out there. be honest and let him know it hurts you, not just makes you mad. it does lower your self esteem, and i say if it doesnt stop soon, as bad as it might hurt, get out of the relationship. its not good for you to be put through that. good luck and hang in there. ever wanna talk jessica_allene23@yahoo.com.
2006-10-13 08:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you need put something on the line. If doesn't listen to you and doesn't care that he's really hurting your feelings, maybe you should tell him that your relationship isn't going to last much longer, if he doesn't change his behavior.
2006-10-13 08:19:19 · answer #11 · answered by Famous Amos {not the cookies} 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋