i think i am desprate my gf dumped me a while ago and tried getting back to her eventhough i knew it wouldint work out
the reason i think i am like this is ever since my buddy moved away i feel so lonely i have tried to make new friends but it jst dosent work all i do is drink and party with my party friends, can you give me some tips to stop me from being so desperate when it comes to relationships
2006-10-13 08:12:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i mean in highschool i was the king i had tons of girls calling me i had dates i was liked now in college i aint **** i am a desprate looser
2006-10-13 08:13:46 · update #1
i have abandonment issues i think from a kid thats why i am like this but now its worse
2006-10-13 08:14:42 · update #2
It sounds like your not happy with yourself, which is necessary before you're ready to be with someone else. Once you make this improvement with yourself, the girls will notice the confidence and they'll start to come naturally. How do you start? Stop worrying about getting girls, do other things you enjoy (whether by yourself or with friends), drink less (it's a depressant), and if need be, get professional help.
2006-10-13 08:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by Psylence 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a very common issue we all face. it is very difficult being alone. I am going through the exact same thing. I moved to live with my boyfriend and go to school here. It didn't work out and now I am stuck here in a big new city on my own, It is rewarding though. The best thing to do is to get counseling. Hang out at community or college functions. Just talk to people around you with the attitude that you will never talk to them again anyway, might as well enjoy the moment. Hope things get better for you:)
2006-10-13 08:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by SweeT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I hope you realize that some of the things I think,you might not like to hear, but YOU put the question on this open forum.... I dont want to offend you at all, just listen.... You sound like a spoiled child... You dont want to be second to your husbands job or your lovers wife.. Do you hear yourself? You talk about yourself like you did nothing wrong, you talk about yourself like you are such a good person. You don't sound remorseful about cheating, but actually want some advice on how to make YOU feel better. Maybe you should take a good look at yourself. I cant believe you are in "love" with this other married man.. Yeah, he sounds like a great, church going man. In all your "prayers", didn't you ever listen? I'm sure God didn't say it was OK to cheat. Your husband is a hard working man and probably loves you so much... I think you should tell your husband... you and your "lover" deserve each other... I think what you and he have done is so selfish, and self-serving. Stop whining about "poor me". I hope you tell your husband and the wife of your "lover" deserves to know too...
2016-05-21 23:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your life, you can still party with your friends but dont take it to extremes... thats if the whole partying thing was what was causing problems in the first place with your gf's. Are you the type of guy who always has gf's, if so keep on with the single life, eventually you'll meet someone you click with. I have learned that looking for love isnt always the answer, sometimes you have to wait for it to come to you. Hope that helps somewhat ...
2006-10-13 08:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by miamoreshay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait wait
ur self esteem has been tarnish and we need to bring up ur self confidence, i was in ur shoe not too long ago and yes i felt the same way, the sky was always gray, and my day to day activities didnt matter no more cuz i didnt have her, but my man u have to stay strong, i was so depress and i didnt have no one to turn too except for 2 of my friends, maybe u dont have anyone to help but come to yahoo friend and express ur feelings we are here to help
one thing i could advise u to do is stop drinking, it s not going to help ur problem, next thing, sit down alone and think to yourself how can u help ur current situation, think to your self
what i used to do is walk to the park and sit byself at night and just think to myself, go work out and release the stress
try swimming n boxing, keep ur self active, try new activities
and last but not least love yourself man
if u dont love ur self no one will and by that u will never get another gf
good luck man
stay in touch
2006-10-13 08:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop talking & listen to others...
2006-10-13 08:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋