My parents and I have a very destructive relationship. I am verbally abused constantly and have very poor trust issues because of it. What should I do?
2006-10-13 08:10:48 · 6 answers · asked by Intellectual Paige 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't know how old you are or what kind of impact your parents have on your life now, but if it's only a negative one, and you take care of yourself, leave them alone. I couldn't wait to get out of my parents' house just so I could be at peace. My story is similar to yours, only drugs and alcohol were a problem with my folks. It's tough to just turn your back on those who brought you into this world, but let me tell you honey, since I've moved 15 hours away from them, my life has been nothing but serene. It's peaceful, and I've taken myself out of that lifestyle that I hope my daughter NEVER has to see. If your happiness means anything to you at all, you have to eliminate those negativities (mom/dad) from your life...then and only then can you find true happiness. Good luck and if you have anymore questions, feel free to e-mail me! I'd love to talk with you some more about it.
2006-10-13 08:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're your parents so it's hard to discontinue the relationship. But limit your contact with them. If they're really that bad...send e-mails and letters to avoid actually talking to them. That way if they write back you can just delete or shred it if it's abusive and wrong. Stay away from them on the Holidays cause all it'll do is ruin things for you. I'm so sorry that they're such buttheads. You don't need and don't have to put up with it. Surround yourself with positive people and when they realize you don't want to be around them anymore, hopefully they'll change their tune. Best of luck!
2006-10-13 08:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be cutting your parents out of your life may be the best thing you can do. I know first hand for self preservation it has to be done. It's not you fault you are just the one it's taken out on. Life is not fair " It Is What It Is" understand that and grow. You are the only one responsible for your own happiness
2006-10-13 18:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away parents rarely change. especially when the verbal abuse starts walk away and stay angry for a while . they might get help but I doubt it .
2006-10-13 08:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are after all your parents and I think you need to try to work things out or at least try to avoid the situations that end up in conflict.
2006-10-13 08:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by AlvaroG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work to get enough money together to move out, and then cut contact with them. You don't need to put up with being abused.
2006-10-13 08:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by triviatm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋