Oh my goodness. I cannot believe some of these parents that dont know how to be "parents" they only know how to be "friends" then they wonder why their job is so much work and their kids wont listen to them. They cant even get their kids to clean up toys, do a simple chore, to bed in THIER own bed, nap times. Eating foods. Its nuts. You people should learn to be in control with the situation! You are their parents and its your JOB to make those kids respect you and do what is EXPECTED and if not PUNISH them for it. Im not saying you have to spank them or any of that. take things away from them, let them know there are bounderies and STOP giving warnings. Children are much smarter than we realize! And its about time to step up and be parents and stop tootsie footing abround worried about "hurting" your child. I bet 90% of people in here had way stricter parents then we will ever be. Hey we all turned out fine didnt we? So why has parenting changed so much through the years?
2006-10-13 08:09:01 · 22 answers · asked by jess_n_flip 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes i am a mother to 4 well behaved respectable boys ages 7,5,5,3
2006-10-13 08:13:50 · update #1
and YES i spank
2006-10-13 08:15:31 · update #2
I agree with you and I too have spanked (very rarely) I think it comes down to setting limits and enforcing the consequences. When I was growing up kids didn't go to school and shoot everyone. I can also say that parents today care to much about making sure that their children have as much fun as possible. I also think that parents have gotten to selfish, busy and just plain don't want to be bothered so they give in. I got an email that sums it up the best I will share with you.TO ALL THE KIDS WHO WERE BORN IN THE 1930's 40's, 50's, and 60's !! ( I am 28 but still find it to be true)
First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us.
They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes.
Then after that trauma, our baby cribs were covered with bright colored lead-based paints.
We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking .
As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.
Riding in the back of a pick up on a warm day was always a special treat.
We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.
We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this.
We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank soda pop with sugar in it, but we weren't overweight because......
WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!!
We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.
No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.
We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem .
We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 99 channels on cable, no video tape movies, no surround sound, no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms..........WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!
We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents.
We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.
We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls and although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes.
We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just yelled for them!
Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!!
The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!
This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever!
The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas. We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TODEAL WITH IT ALL! And YOU are one of them! CONGRATULATIONS!
You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own good. and while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave their parents were. Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors, doesn't it?!
I think another big difference is that there arent as many stay at home moms. I don't think working is bad I just think that alot of working parents get to busy, and stop remembering what is important. I also think that part of the reason we were allowed to run free is because someones parents were always around, no matter where you went. Not only that but our parents made friends with everyone and if someone they knew saw us up to no ggood they would tell our parents and we would be punished. Now a days if a parent gets a call they are offended and often refuse to beleive their child did anything wrong. Any child is capable of getting into trouble.
2006-10-13 09:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Irish lady 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOU GOT IT!!!! The way kids are raised today is so different from how we were raised. Yeah, my parents sure spanked me when I needed it. I lost priviledges and things when I deserved it.
But today, I think parents are half scared to discipline their kids. There has been a very fine line drawn between parenting and abuse. People think that is they spank their kids then they will lose them. People that work in child services say that it shows them that it is ok for a big person to hit a little person. BULLSHIT! If we give a child a tap on the butt or hand it shows them that they did something wrong. It shows them, well if I do this, I get spanked, well I don't like that....I'm not gonna do it again!
But I'm NOT saying beat the heck outta them. That would be abuse. You aren't supposed to hit them so hard to leave a mark. Just hard enough for them to notice. But, opposed to spanking, there are other effective alternatives.
Another thing is, SOME parents are just TOO LAZY to wanna deal with their kids. So they let them do whatever. Then when it gets outta control, nothing can be done about it.
2006-10-13 08:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol i can trully understand....i have people that are just "friends" to thier children...my husband doesnt believe in doing such a thing all the way...you can be a friend to them so that they may confide in you, come to you if there is something wrong but at the same time whip them back into shape if they step out of line.... i think with this generation they recall how they were spanked as a child and are all holding a grudge against thier parents and therefore they dont want to hit thier "little angels"., that is the only thing i can think of..i know more than enough parents were spanked as a child and yet they dont want to do that to thier kids, what else would be the reason?
2006-10-13 11:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jen L-Baby #1 due Nov 15, 2010 ! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is wrong w/ parents? Where do we all begin? I suppose if you live in Washington and it is against the law to spank your child, you can always bring them on down to Oregon and I can help you w/ your problems. There was less violent crimes among children when we were young, less gangs, less dropouts, etc. I don't think I ever dared to talk back to my parents for fear of what might happen. I never got spanked after 5yrs old, I never needed it. Grow up and be a parent of yesteryear people!
2006-10-13 08:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by nanny101 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No kidding. I am a mommy to a 6 yr old, 4 yr old, and 3 yr old. With 3 kids in the house that close in age....you've got to put your foot down. (and spank some butts) People baby their kids so much. They give them everything they want, probably out of good intentions, but also out of stupidity. If a child is given everything he wants and never has to work for anything, then that child will never know what if feels like to accomplish anything. Therefore, the child will never strive to accomplish anything. And everyone is wondering why there are so many bumbs in this new generation!!
2006-10-13 08:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a tricky question, because it affects other aspects as well such as: Should JW parents be allowed to refuse blood for their children? The parents in this case acted according to their belief. If we take freedom of religion seriously, where do we draw the line? If we say: "This has harmed the child!" there will be other people who will say: "JW harm their children by refusing blood tranfusions!" Sure, it is sad. But according the law of Jehovah, the parents are responsible for their children. We cannot make them to reasonable JWs if they don't want.
2016-03-18 08:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sara posted a statement,"Discipline vs. Punishment", this is the thinking that has created an epidemic of little Hitlers. Discipline is punishment and vice verse. The overwhelming majority of the Sugar-coated discipliners are Mothers. This is all thanks to eggspurts, the people who couldn't get a real job, so they work for the government. Dr. Spock even lamented that he had created a generation of heathens. Spanking is not barbaric, it's natural. Adults get a "spanking" when we do something wrong, speeding tickets, jail time, fines for all sorts of things. Parents need to stop listening to morons in the government and start raising their kids to be decent and moral. There are absolute truths, and to quote the bible, "He who spares the rod, hates their child." Parents who don't want to punish thier children, don't want to be responsible for the child's outcome as an adult.
2006-10-14 01:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This generation of parents are trying to find new ways to discipline our kids. Because discipline in the past has been to harsh for some people, AND mostly because we cant spank our kids in public, we cant do a whole lot with out getting social services called on us. We have to be careful, and its just the way it is if we want to keep our kids close to us.
2006-10-13 08:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have 3 kids 2 boys one girl and I believe that respect is earned not given. Even from the parents. I can't expect my kids to respect me just because I am mom. I earn their respect by being fair and including them in any discussion that affects them. Being a parent is not a job it is a blessing. And if your think we all turned out all right you need to listen to the news or read a paper once in a while. Being in contol of the situation is a two way street. I want my kids to learn how to control their situation. The only way I can do that is to teach them how to make informed choices. I love my kids more than anything else and yes I am blessed my kids turned out fine so far.
2006-10-13 08:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by valarie l 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Whew. Am I glad I'm not these 'parents' children. Punishment vs. Disipline; Humm, let me think. Would I rather teach my child about life, cause & effect, and right from wrong. Or just whack him one and cross my fingers he trusts I am the supernatural force to reckon with -- for the here and now anyway ;)
2006-10-13 08:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋