My boyfriend and I got pregnant. Not planned. I was using birth control and all that. But, it still happened. Everyone I know is unhappy and so was I at first. But, I learned to accept it and know I'm happy and so is he. But, everyone keeps putting me down. Like, I ruined my life. Im 18 and live with my boyfriend. We are finacially stable and can handle it, I know it will be hard, but it will fine. How should I feel? It feels like I cant even be happy about it because no one else is. I need advice on how to feel about it all. I want this baby and I'm not aborting or giving it up. So please don't suggest that. Thanks.
2006-10-13 07:59:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Good for you. It is your life and you are making an adult decision. Don't go through the pregnancy with your eyes shut - be aware of all that it takes to raise a baby and make informed choices of what you are doing. Let other people know that you are excited about becoming a mom and hopefully they will follow in your example and be happy for you. And once that baby is born, everyone will love that baby and be excited to see him/ her grow up.
good luck!
2006-10-13 08:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Cara M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I understand it must have been an unwelcome shock at first, but like many mums-to-be, you are growing used to the idea & already bonding with your baby.
As you probably know, you cant control your feelings over other peoples reactions to your news, but you can control how you react to it & you can also make it very clear that you are happy about this & expect them to be happy for you.
If you happily tell them you are pregnant & act excited then it would be a very rude person who starts being negative with you...
Sure, its not gonna be easy, but it is rewarding in so many ways & is far more admirable than having a abortion & most women would admit that they simply couldnt give their child up for adoption - even when they may consider it a better option.
You will most probably find that people are kinder as your pregnancy progresses & the baby seems *real* & once the little one is born they will fall in love with it.
You cant please everyone in this life, so dont even try - if you are happy with your decision & your partner is supportive, then ignore everyone else & focus on the positives.
Heck i was in my 20s when i had my 1st baby, i had my 2nd a year later & although people didnt think it wise to have 2 so close together, they didnt say anything horrible once they saw his beautiful face.
Good luck
2006-10-13 15:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you and your boyfriend are happy, forget about everyone else. You're not the first girl to have a baby at such a young age and you're not the last, it happens all the time and everyone manages. You know you're going to do whatever you have to do to give your baby a good life.
I'm sure everyone else means well... but they don't know what the future will bring. They hear 18 and pregnant and of course their minds go to the negative, but that doesn't have to be the case. What they should be doing is offering encouragement, let you know that they will be there for you, so even if times do get hard - they're not going to let you and your child
go hungry, go without a roof over your head etc..
Just stay strong, be happy and think of the little bundle of joy that'll be coming around.
My boyfriend and I are 21 and our son is about to turn 1 in 2 weeks, we're so happy, he's made every day of our lives better and we've always managed. My thoughts are with you. :)
2006-10-13 15:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by PrettyProblem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP THINKING ABOUT IT SO MUCH. THIS IS YOUR LIFE YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT AND IF YOU'RE HAPPY THEN BE HAPPY. STOP LISTENING TO OTHER PEOPLE NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE. PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY, THEY ARE NEVER GOING TO BE HAPPY, WITH WHAT YOU DO AND IF YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND ARE HAPPY AND HAVE THE CONFIDENCE STRENGTH AND ARE STABLE THEN KEEP IT UP. IF EVERY COUPLE THAT ENDED UP HAVING AN UNPLANED CHILD THOUGHT AND DID WHAT YOU DID THIS WOULD BE A BETTER WORLD. FROM THE LOOKS OF IT YOU TWO ARE ONE OF A KIND, AND REMEMBER IT'S YOUR FAMILY AND ONLY YOU CAN DECIDE. BE HAPPY AND IGNORE THOSE COMMENTS I'M HAPPY FOR YOU. HOPEFULLY EVERYTHING WORKS OUT. AND HAVE THE COURAGE TO FACE ALL THOSE IN YOUR WAY BECAUSE IT NEVER ENDS.
2006-10-13 18:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by DRLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First who the #### cares what they think guess what it is your choice, and your life. I am married with two kids but I first was unplanned and we were not married either. My husbands whold family was mad and was telling us to have an abortion, but I didn't and we had our son which everyone adores now. The family didn't come to the hospital when he was born and didn't even come to our house to see him. He was born October 22 and they didn't see him until December 24th the first great grandson, and grandson so don't let them bother you. You two be happy and I wish you all the luck if you need any help with all the questions you will have feel free to add me and ask away not only am I am mother of 2 but I run a daycare so I should be able to help. Good Luck and Congrads
2006-10-13 15:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by apples2oo4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've had 2 unplanned pregnancies, and i brought 2 gorgeous little girls into this world. i would not trade that for anything.
it's going to be very difficult for you on so many levels, but you have to try and keep your chin up, and think about what's important for your child's future. you need to focus on providing a stable, loving, and happy environment for he/she to grow up in. everyone else's opinions of the situation really don't matter. what you need most right now is to remove as much stress from your life as possible, so if anyone acts negatively towards you or your baby, tell them to leave. it's up to you to make your child's life a happy one, don't let anyone bring you down. good luck!
2006-10-13 15:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you, your boyfriend and everyone else around you are the one's that got pregnant, yes 18 is young, but are you and your man ready, dont let everyone around you run your life, child birth is an amazing milestone in anyones life, appreciate it. cause how you feel now will reflect on how you feel throughout the childs most precious years. GOD SPEED!!
2006-10-13 15:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by pothead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell everybody to go ***** themselves, it was the same way when I got pregnant! I dont regret it and I dont have to live with the fact I killed a baby either.
Dont worry about everyone one, they arent you!
Abortion is sick and disturbing and any womn who has one is a demon, to me!
You'll be fine, just be happy with your man and the fact your going to have a new family!
Everyone else can screw themselves...oh, and congrats!
2006-10-13 15:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prove all those people wrong. You and your boyfriend can show those people that you are mature and responsible by raising your baby well. Getting married would be a good start. Good luck and congratulations. Every baby is a blessing.
2006-10-13 15:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to what other people say it's your life and your decision....my sister was pregnant when she was your age she had the baby and married the father and they are a very happy family....
2006-10-13 15:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋