I am married, and have been for 5 months. But i met this other guy and hes the shy type, just like me. but he talked and we sit at the bar talking for hours and hours at a time...it just seems so perfect between us. When im not around him i think about him all the time and i cant help it.... what should i do? this is bothering me b/c i dont wanna keep hiding it.?
2006-10-13 07:57:21 · 34 answers · asked by mel_06_01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well mel 06 01 sounds like you got married a llittle too soon, doesn't it??? As dumb as this may sound, they are usually easier to talk to before you have a relationship with them... and the grass is not always greener on hte other side.
2006-10-13 07:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't hide it, you should tell your husband your feelings and ask him for fogiveness. Tell your husband you want to spend more time with your husband and fall in love all over again. Go on a second honey moon. It's normal to have these feelings but you have made a choise to be a wife forever, now you must at least try. Do you really want a failed marriage after 5 months? Do you you think once you marry this other guy that something better might come along or you realize what a mistake you made? You married your husband for many reasons, now go back and remember what they are. Get some marriage councilling.
2006-10-13 08:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ur doing is bad. you are getting some feelings for this guy. and like u said u are married. You need to forget about this new guy because u made a commitment 5 months ago. I think that the love between u guys has ran out. Or maybe u never loved ur husband. this is something extremely sad because he doesn't know that u are talking to someone else. U need to get things straight its ether ur husband or ur new friend. keep in mind that ur marriage is in the middle of all of this. Think about the pros and cons of ur decision. Put it on a scale and make ur mind up. I hope everything works out. I know that one of u will end up hurting but ohh well life goes on. u can't force someone to be with u. Please stop hiding things from ur husband its not a good thing. Make ur mind up and take action.
2006-10-13 08:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by Twilight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It's hard to say but I'ma keep it real because that's how i do (see my name). I myself am in love with a married but i'm engaged. I think that if u love you're husband and u want to work at the relationship then cut the other man loose. Seeing that u were just married i can't say that u should continue to see this man unless your marriage aint working, but i'm confused because u was just married. But i don't find it harmful if your not doin' anyhthing. But i would at lease try toit sounds like your falling for this person, trust me i know that's what love does, have u thinkin' about the person day in and out, and it can cause problems in your marriage because u will find yourself not feeling the same about you're husband, because your focus will be for that other person. I know I go through that now. But i have to make sure that i sepaerate that 2 so that i don't loose interest in my fiance and what i make sure that i do is not see or talk to that person everyday. U don't want to get to use to that other person because u r gonna want your man to become that person (character&personality). I could go on and on because i myself has i said b4 am going through the exact same thing but on the oposit side of the table. All in all, b careful. U know what u can and can't do although from a man point of view they would say that u can't do what u doin' but i myself don't see anything wrong with it as long as u haven't done anyhting other then going to have drinks and talking because u can do that with anyone and it not mean anything, u know what i'm, saying. Godd luck and b very carefule i would hate for your marriage to end because of conversation.
2006-10-13 11:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by the real deal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you meeting some dude in a bar in the first place? If your wanting to cheat then divorce hubby and go. A woman/man who doesnt wish to cheat will not put themselves in a position to do so such as a bar setting. And dont get knocked up and bring a kid into this mess.
2006-10-13 08:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember why you got married in the first place. what ever it is your going to jepordize your marriage in the process. Six months isn't a long time but its longer then a couple of hours in a bar. I understand that you felt a connection but don't be selfish and leave your husband and a chance at really happiness.
2006-10-13 08:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by J D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a symptom that you are not happy in your marriage. Its a shame that it is happening to you so early in your marriage, which makes me wonder how come you are at a bar alone with another guy hours at a time?
If you want your marriage to work, you make it work you at least TRY to make it work. If you dont, you get your marriage enulled.
Remember the grass is not always greener on the other side.
2006-10-13 08:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by chiara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him hit it a couple of times just to get it out of your system and go back to your husband--assuming, of course, that you can handle hiding the guilt and betrayal of your husband's trust better than you can handle hiding your attraction for this other guy...
The other option is to trade your marriage in for the experience of seeing what this other guy is really like. Just tell your husband that you can't stand hiding your feelings for this other guy anymore and you must leave. Then, you can do whatever you like.
2006-10-13 08:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i got this married women pregnet once it was a real bad deal for every one um id say your married and only for 5 months if its bad and you don't want to be their then leave only you need to make sure that Mr. talks for hrs will be their for you id say stick w/ the commitment you made or at least give your marriage a chance what the hell is wrong w/ you 5 months and your already like well their this new guy i like he's shy but .....
2006-10-13 08:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by <B> 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date him, then have sex with him. Why should you care about marriage. It's just a word in your eye anyway.
You know I'm right. you don't have a "real" marriage, your just that kind of a person who has to play around. so go for it. enjoy. guilt is for suckers and you out for your own babe.
It's all good.....Just not for him
Oh by the way how do you get a 21 year old husband and a 13 year old child?.
2006-10-13 08:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋