My boyfriend's cousin has been staying with us for two months. I actually don't mind him staying because he doesn't come home until late and isn't around much at weekends. His other cousin is also stayed here for a month but he has moved somewhere else now. Anyway I said why can't those fools find somewhere to live and my boyfriend thinks I am the worst person in the world for suggesting his cousin leave. they have been looking etc but I i am the type of person who would stay at a friends 2 weeks at most and be looking for a place everyday but they are only kind of looking and it doesn't bother him at all that they haven't found anywhere yet. What do you think? Am i horrible for saying they are fools because they are not capable of finding something.
2006-10-13 07:54:33 · 13 answers · asked by nik 28 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One month. Anything over that is unacceptable. This is enough time for someone to get on their feet and get a place to stay.
2006-10-13 08:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to talk to your boyfriend and say okay if they insist on staying here they have to at least help around the house. After 2 weeks its not considered a visitor. They are taking away your privacy. I am pretty sure that there is some things you use to do that you cant do anymore because they are there. For example my cousin split up with her boyfriend and I took her in. It was almost a month and I told her you need to decide what to do. I love having her there but I thought it might be a problem with my boyfriend. Come to find out he does not have a problem with it. The only thing he said is that she has to help around the house. She shares the room with my daughter. She pays $250 a month helps with the cleaning and when my hubby and me go out she would watch the baby. And she buys things for the house. Some things we use to do we can't but the arrangement over all is working out so far. But she is only there because my boyfriend does not have a problem with it. So if you don't feel comfortable with him in the house then he has to go but till he does should definitely help out. If he does not bother you him being there but the fact that your wasting more money then before then just make an agreement on what he should pay and do around the house. Its only fair.
2006-10-13 08:36:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's capable of working and finding a place to stay then he should pay rent. If he's going through a ruff time and is working on getting back on his feet then i understand. Just explain to your boyfriend that he's costing you guys money and that you would just like if he could pay a little rent. I mean take like half of what he'd probably spend for rent on a apartment. This way he's contributing to what it's costing you but it's not going to cost him the amount of an actual apartment/house. This way your still being nice but your letting him know he can't live there for free forever. Hope things work out.
2006-10-13 08:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with a reputable property management company. For a small fee they will take care of everything and they know the laws in your state. But if you want to do it yourself, just remember it is not easy being a landlord. As owner/landlord, you can draw up the contract to you requirements. Background checks are always a good idea. I think it would be difficult to get a background check for those that are foreigners. Make sure the tenants have a good work history; you can also require 3 personal references. Some states, you are not allowed to ask for last month's rent up front, only first month's rent, however you can ask for security. Usually, it is up to the owner to keep the lawn mowed, not the tenants, you can negotiate on that. Don’t forget the utilities (light, gas and water), again, you can negotiate. Your main goal is to get enough money to cover the expenses of owning a second house. Some like to make more money if it is their income property. Just remember to be careful who you rent to, trying to evict tenants can be costly. I think it is wise to have a month to month lease. The contract should be clear, concise and in simple terms and conditions. Be very careful; remember these are strangers living at your property.
2016-03-18 08:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should never allow anyone to stay in your house. Its your house and it is not good to have them around because that can result in bad things.
Like if they don't leave, then your boyfriend has to ask them to leave and that will break their relationship and cause ill feeling within his family. Secondly, its immoral. Even if you are a very good woman and say your boyfriend has gone out and you are with the cousin, even if nothing happened, your boyfriend can still suspect you cheated on him and that can break your relationship.
Just ask them when they are going to leave or if you think they are not searching for a place, then you find a place on the net or nnewspaper and show them that there is a place on offer.
2006-10-13 08:24:19 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would they want to leave? They're spending their money on fun stuff while you foot the house bills!! Tell them to pony up and at least buy the groceries, pay the utilities, the phone bill... cable bill... I bet, as soon as they are forking out money to stay with you, they'll miraculously find another place to live!! Now. If you are living there rent-free cuz your boyfriend pays all the bills, then it is HIS call... not yours. But if you are carrying your share of the financial load, you have a right to ask for help.
2006-10-13 08:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your never suppose to call someone a fool..But I agree if he stays there he should help with at least the food ..I tell your boyfriend either he helps out or find somewhere else to live or I'd be gone..You give some people a foot and they'll take a mile..It's great to help but there is a limit...
2006-10-13 08:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are approaching this the wrong way. You are being antagonistic towards his cousin. Try a different method. You could say "honey, I know you love your cousin but I would like him to leave so we can have our house to ourselves. When you speak to him remind him of what you can do in privacy that you can not do with house guests around. Do not call the cousin names. Also look in the papers and if you see something that they might like and be able to afford you could put a big red circle around it and make sure they see the ad. You are not horrible and you have a legitimate beef but you just have to change your approach.
2006-10-13 08:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is more than a month, they need to pay rent at your place. Even though he is not there all the time, he is rasing your monthy bills.
2006-10-13 07:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Judy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After the second day if no exit date has been set
2006-10-13 08:01:00 · answer #10 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋