LOL. I know of a situation like this & I'm curious!
In two of the marriages, he was married to the same woman, so in essence, while he has been divorced three times, he only has two ex-wives.. but like it makes much of a difference?
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This is my second post of this question, because I think it may have a better home here in the Weddings category than in the Etiquette category. Otherwise, I apologize for the duplication.
2006-10-13 07:42:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, I'm asking obvious questions like: should the wedding be a large wedding (should they desire), with all of the fixings and trimmings usually attributed to first weddings, because the bride has never been married? Or should they play it down a bit, due to the groom's past record?
2006-10-13 07:49:27 · update #1
Just because it is his 3 wedding (since he married one woman twice) doesn't mean that you have to do something different just because of that! It is your first and last wedding you need to make it special for you and him. If people have a problem with it Tough! It is the way you and him want to celebrate getting married. If people have that big of a problem with it then they need not come to your wedding. if they can't be happy with it then they don't deserve to be there! If anything look up books or web sites on etiquette of getting married. Just in case you don't want to offend anyone, but I say it is your guy's day do what you think is appropriate! Good Luck and Congratulations!
2006-10-13 07:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hopefully it will be his last wedding! My goodness she much be a saint to marry a man with that much baggage. But to answer your question the bride's family is traditionally responsible for the finances of the wedding so they can go all out since its the first time doing it, now if SHE were to get divorced and remarry then she can have a smaller wedding because her parents may not want to spend that much again. Weddings are usually the brides say so go with what she wants. There is really no etiquette surrounding second and third marriages anymore, divorce is all to common. Back in the day where you were trash if you were divorced this would be a big no no. Unless they are rich by that time they are too broke to have a big wedding anyway.
2006-10-13 07:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing much should change... It's usually the brides day anyways. Just like any other wedding - ex's are NOT invited! She's an idiot for getting involved with a firecracker like that though. Poor girl I hope it doesn't happen to her too.
2016-03-28 07:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know for sure, but I think the wedding is more for the bride, so if she's never been married before she should be able to have the wedding of her dreams. If she's also been married I think a big wedding is kind of tacky. They should just have a small wedding and then a reception for their friends.
2006-10-13 08:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally it's considered a first, second, third wedding based on the bride's first, second third, not the groom's.
If it is the *bride's* first marriage, she can have a veil, a train, wedding or bridal showers, and a gift registry. Those four things are not usually acceptable, by etiquette, for brides being re-married.
2006-10-13 10:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when a bride is married a second time, or more, the wedding should just be a small, private affair - not the big to-do with all the trappings. I don't see why it should be any different when the man was in that situation.
I guess my question really would be - who the heck would be so dense as to marry a guy who has failed thrice, and really four times, before? Duh.....
2006-10-13 10:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are either extremely confident or extremely foolish. This man does not want to settle for the same woman. Instead of having affairs he has divorces to get a different woman once he gets bored. It's your first wedding and if you're bound and determined to marry this guy do it in whatever way you ever dreamed of doing it. When you get married you should be doing it forever not until divorce do we part.
2006-10-13 08:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever the couple prefers.......I have been married twice (this time is the 2nd) and my hubby married 3 times (I am his third wife) (one was cheating on him and that only lasted a year and the other just did not work out), and we had a grand affair, with over 250 in attendance, big dress and all, more attendants than the first one. we just felt that this is the marriage that we should both have had the first time and we wanted to celebrate it as such.
2006-10-13 08:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the wedding should be what they want it to be; doesn't matter what the "past" is for either one of them. If they can afford and really want a large wedding - what's the difference how many times either of them had been married? It's their choice entirely.
2006-10-13 08:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you are asking about. Like who to invite or what.
The people coming to the wedding should be those that both of the bridal party enjoy. Keep the ex's out and hope for the best.
I wonder if it will last.
2006-10-13 07:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋