I am bringing my son up on my own and he does not have any interest in sport or the outdoors. I am worried that he is not going to be normal. He does not like fishing and neever plays sport. He goes to kinergarden as I work and I can see him on a web cam. He plays with girls only. I am worried. I am going to buy him a dog to encourage him to go out more. It will toughen him up. Can any one help? I do not want a nancy boy for a son.
2006-10-13 07:25:44 · 27 answers · asked by Brett S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Why am I getting thumbs down? Please no liberals need reply to my question. All I want is for my son to play sports. Its good for him. I do not want a nancy boy. If no-one cant give me any ideas on how I can make him normal please do not reply. Thank you.
2006-10-13 08:20:50 · update #1
how you act is how he will act so if you are with men he might change but the dog is a very good idea
2006-10-13 07:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by olie_h_t 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so your son doesn't like sports.....so what. Just because a boy don't like sports don't mean anything. Honestly it sounds like you may be pushing the outdoor stuff. Maybe he would be more interested in Trains or something. Maybe he would like to build things. You and him could do simple carpentry activities ( building a birdhouse together, a tree fort, etc.) Those activities could get him outside as well. Also, he may be into cars and stuff. You could help him build models. Maybe even take him camping if possible. You need to introduce more options to him.
I do agree with getting him a dog. I believe ALL KIDS should have a pet. And yes, it would help him go out more often. And you are right, kids should go outside. But there are plenty of activities he can do, that will prove that he won't be a "nancy boy."
Help him expand his horizons and you'll be surprised! ( And u should be proud, he's a "Ladies Man," maybe one of those little girls is his "girlfriend".....so cute!!)
2006-10-13 07:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't!!!!!
Let him be the person he wants to be and love him no matter what. You need to worried about watching him on a web cam. So he plays with girls, he is a kid he plays with other kids. Are you an abusive person, boys don't cry and all that crap!!!!!!!!!!!
Buy him a dog because you love him and want to give him a gift not for any other reason just because you love him. And by the way what the h*ll is a "nancy boy"?
You have a son maybe he does not want to turn out like you
The help you need is not for him, you need help for you.
2006-10-13 08:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by valarie l 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I was about 9 or 10, my mom signed me up for a soccer team. She was so eager for me to get into the game that she signed my up for the "advanced" class. I hadn't really played soccer outside of recess. So there I was, around a bunch of 14 and 15 year old bouncing the ball on their head, alone. It got to the point where the coach encouraged me to try. A kid kicked a ball to me and it hit me directly in the face, knocked me down and gave me a double nose bleed. They were all laughing at me, but my dad was there and quickly took me home. I never went back. :P
So here I am, scarred for life, no real athletic ability, but a successful 17 year old graphic designer. the moral of the story is:
GIVE YOUR SON A TRY IF HE DOESNT LIKE IT. LET HIM BE!YOU CAN BE SUCCESSFUL WITHOUT SPORTS
2006-10-13 07:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by master of points 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your son be as he is. He is very young and right now is not showing signs of what kind of boy or man he will become. Some children are athletic, some or not. At his age, he still has a few years before he will be interested in them anyway. My 13-yo step-daughter plays volleyball and basketball and runs track, and she is terribly uncoordinated and not athletic though she tries to be. My 9-yo step-son is just not interested, except for baseball and does well. My 6-yo daughter is very athletic and competitive, but enjoys cheering and dance (girly sports). Let him be what he wants and do what he wants and he will be much happier.
2006-10-13 07:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter what he's like. He's your son and if he turns out to be 'a nancy boy' as you put it, it shouldn't make any difference. So long as my son is happy, I couldn't care less. Boys always like playing with girls toys, particularly if they have none at home. Take him with you to play sport, swim, soccer in the park, enrol him in a gym class. Do not assume that because he's male he should play tough sports. My husband hated it as a kid but is absolutely mad on motor sport, bikes and cars. That keeps him fit and active. Ok, it's not running around a baseball pitch but who cares. He's happy! x
2006-10-13 07:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by t11omo 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you force your child to do things they don't like doing, they are just going to resent it. When he gets older, he won't even exercise because he'll remember it all as a bad experience. Do something else to keep in shape as a family: bike riding, walking, or just spending some time at the park. As far as extracurriculars, let him choose something. These things are supposed to be FUN not "resume enhancers". What does a 12 year old need a resume for?
2016-03-28 07:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
encouragement to develop his health body and persona isn't a bad thing, especially with the dangerously high levels of obese kids and sex change operations. Including him in a physically challenging, competitive sport is just the key. Be very careful not to go over the edge- could be the worst possible conclusion.
2006-10-13 08:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by ciaran_m_o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nancy boy! ha
u no if girls are tomboys its a good thing but its a bad thing if boys are nancyboys, its a real insult to the female race.
also ever notice how girls sometime worry about being too girly but there is no such thing as too boyish.
about your son dont worry hes only in kinergarden he'll grow out of it, he'll still be normal only worry if he still plays only wit girls in a few more years but even then he shud be fine
2006-10-13 07:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by ciaragw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am bringing my son up on his own aswell & he was a sensitive boy,still is sometimes,but we talked & i explained to him that he gotta stand up for himself.which he now does.
If you enjoy any sport get your son to watch it on tv with you 1st.
I love football & thats how i got daniel into it,he now plays for a team & the school & is an avid liverpool fan.
Lots of praise & encouragement is what you have to do,but there is nothing wrong with playing with girls,it shows he can mix. Enjoy your son as they grow up to quick
Good luck & hope all goes well.
2006-10-13 11:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't make him play sports if he's not into it. What children grow up to become is partly based on their parents and partly based on who they are. Good parents will encourage their children to be themselves instead of being "normal".
Does it matter how "normal" he is as long as he's happy?
My little brother was never into sports and when he was in kindergarden he played with all the girls. Now at age 20 he's a girl magnet! I've had girls come to me several times to say "wow.. you're bother is amazing! he's cute, sensitive, and not gay!"
my brother is artistic and very musically talented,and extreamly had he been forced to play sports and be with the boys he might not because the musician he has become.
I have a friend who played football and was into sports and "guy" things. In highschool all the girls hada crush on him including myself. he's 23 now, fat, lazy and works in fastfood.. where he'll probably work for the rest of his life...
My brother at the age of 20 is a hansome man who has a 4.0 in college where he's getting his business degree. He's also locally a famous musician who everyone in our town admires...
Seriously what do you want your son to grow up to be? You shouldn't make him particapate in what he doesn't enjoy. encourage him to be himself and embrace your son for who he is.
2006-10-13 07:34:57 · answer #11 · answered by JD 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋