Why does this 26 year old want to be with me so much?

Question

I have been with him for over six months now and he makes me feel like a total saint. I want to know why he is so gaga over a 17 year old. He says that he wants to see me every morning whenever he wakes up and that he can never see himself with anyone else. I know that he is a good guy and wouldn't "use" me in any way. But I just want to know what he sees in me. I have asked him and all he told me was that I am the toughest girl he knows and that i know what I want in life. He is a total flatterer to me and I can't stand one minute without him. Does anyone out there know if we will last? I hope we do forever. I also asked him if he really loves me and he said that he can't stop thinking about me and that all his friends come to me and say that they have naver seen him this way before and that he is totally in to me. I love every minute that I am with him. It is so crazy!!!!!!!

Answer 1

oh come on most of the bloody answers above. get over the media s'hit and overhype about older guys being perverts and crap like that. And dont pretend this didnt happen in the past, for thousands of years perhaps even......this is probably normal
i hope u dont swallow that crap wholesale....
anyway, they guy is 26 for goodness sake. not bloody 69 or 80. who said u had to be older and mature by then. I know whole load of ppl who arent all that mature at even 40.....
If the lad is really into you,he is into you. And if you love him also , better. Then take it as it goes. Enjoy it, and then build your realationship as it grows. u still have to put effort into it u know, and as u both mature together, BOTH of you will know how....so take it from there.
no one here can predict the future and tell u if it will last or not, or what he wants, or what u want, for neither are we psychic. otherwise i would have opened up a psychic hotline, and charge u load for it....lol
anyway, good luck, and be happy.................

Answer 2

Oh yes, it is CRAZY alright! You are still a teenager, not much beyond being a child, and he is a man in his mid-20's who should know better than to be fooling around with a young school girl, although the fact that he is doing this shows how very IMMATURE HE is also. So what you have here is an underage girl and an overgrown boy playing at "true love" when neither one of you can possibly have the faintest idea at your stage in life what real ove is all about and what it means. You will be changing in so many ways as you grow up, and hopefully he will some day grow up too, but all you will be doing in the meantime by hanging together now is stopping any possibility of emotional growth for BOTH of you!

Answer 3

Your only 17 you need to experience more things. You need to see the world.

I'm sorry to say this but I do not think it will work out. In a year or whatever time from now you'll be able to look back and say wow that was an experience and be a better person for it. You wouldn't want to grow up so fast cause there are so much things to do. Like date, meet new people, have alot of close friends, fall in love because when you hold yourself down to one person and especially with the age gap it will would eventually just become you and him. You need to see the world. Experiencing first dates. Getting all anxious before you are about to go on a date with someone you really like. And you know if those dates don't work out. Who cares...they would have been all great experiences. When that on person comes along you will know. Trust me you will know. You won't be asking his friends on their options or getting reassurance from him. You'll know what he sees in you.

Answer 4

I would say no. Having had relationships with others beyond my years like your friend, the difference was phenominal. I believe the older person is more than likely to be too dominant for a 16 year old to know any better. Even at 16, you claiming she is mature... she is certainly not as mature as she would be when she is 26.

Answer 5

You have to remember that when thinking about being serious with someone who you have so huge of an age difference with that you are still 10 years apart.

You are right to question it. What would he want with a 17 year old? You didn't mention it, but did you have sex yet? Does he think you are a virgin? Because that may be what he wants...

If that's not it then maybe he's "emotionally unavailable" to girls his age... Maybe he likes bragging to his friends...

Or maybe he really does just like you and doesn't see the age difference being a prob?

Whatever the answer is you should be on point with this one. It sounds to me like you are being set up for a heartache!

Answer 6

Good for you. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but all good things come to an end. What I mean by that is he may not treat you like that a year from now, or 3 or 5 or 15 years from now. Just dont read into it right away. I know the feeling is great but get ready for the opposite. Be strong for that outcome for the future, That is the true test of longevity

Answer 7

Is no problem right now, the problem is if you can give up, to have fun and experience other guys. You are only 17 to be sure what you really want /like marriage/ you have to be min.23 , but this is my point of view. Every relationship from the beginning is hot,hot , hot but later cooled down and you can see the stability.
The deference in age is for both of you just perfect, only more mature man can handle and know more what he really want and who, and can be responsible.
Is no warranty on any relationship to be forever but yours has all the quality to be successful. Just let the time go, enjoy the wonderful time. But if you want get married just Please wait min. the 5 years .

Answer 8

Sounds like a pedofile to me. It is ILLEGAL for someone that old to be with an underage person. If you were to go all the way with him he would be arrested. Some people have psychological issues and have obsessions for younger girls. If this is true for him, as soon as you get a little older he will go for someone younger. Otherwise it can lead to an unhealthy obsession which may lead to something much, much worse. Why would you want to be with someone so much older than you while you're still in high school? Can't you find someone your own age? You can do better.

Answer 9

1. Does he have a steady job?
2. Does he pay his bills on time?
3. Does he own a home or is he saving towards owning a home?
4. Is he respectful to his parents in word and action, even when they're not around?
5. Do other people think of him in terms like: gentle, honest, respectful, kind, and wise?
6. Have you ever caught him lying to you or someone else?

If you answered "No" to questions 1-5 or "Yes" to question 6, run away. You're too young for Mister Flatterer.

Answer 10

U should consider ur self lucky. U have found a man that truly loves u. I don't know if it will last but I do know that he loves u. U will always be in his heart. Sometimes in life someone comes along and changes everything, Ur life does a complete 360. I know from exp. All I can say is enjoy all the time u have with him. And work things out. With love everything is possible, good luck. Form the bottom of my heart.