I've been getting to know a girl (we'll call her Girl A) for almost a month now and we've spent a fair bit of time together shopping and sight-seeing and having dinner, and I really quite like her and want to make it more than friends. But last week she was away for the week and I met another girl (Girl B) and we've kinda been seeing each other. But things don't feel right with the this girl, we don't talk much, we don't go anywhere together and I generally don't feel into her. I've spoken to Girl A and asked her whether there was anything happening between us to which she replied "I don't want to risk ruining a good friendship..." Which I accepted, but I can't get her out of my head, I can't help feeling I should be with Girl A who makes me truely happy rather than with Girl B who really just stops me feeling lonely.
Help!!
2006-10-13 07:15:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, forget Girl B. Woman A is the one you have fun with and think about. But sometimes if a woman says that she "doesn't want to ruin a good friendship," it usually means that she doesn't want to have a relationship with you. Usually a female won't want to hesitate when they've found a good catch. I know from experience, I was friends with my beau first, and when it was time to take it to that next level (two months later), I stop to think, "Will this work?" I just went for it. So, you should either wait a little longer for her (if you feel she's definitely worth it), or you should move on and remain friends.
2006-10-13 07:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going out with girl B for all the wrong reasons; you wouldn't like it either if someone went out with you just to escape boredom. Stay friends with girl A. It's only been a month and there's a possibility it could turn into something, but try not to get your hopes up too high. In the meantime you should really be on the lookout for girl C, someone who is probably better for you than either one.
2006-10-13 14:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by infernal_seamonkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T just be with Girl B because your lonely. Bad things happen when you have a relationship to just have one. Girl A sounds like the girl for you. If you can't get her out of your head, keep her there. Don't give up on her. Continue being her friend. You'll have to work to gain her trust before she'll consider dating you. She'll come around eventually, you just have to wait for her.
Good Luck and don't do something stupid with Girl B.
2006-10-13 14:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then stay with Girl A. Don't push anything, just enjoy each other's company. In time, you will know whether or not there is something more than a friendship being developed.
2006-10-13 14:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I don't want to risk ruining a good relationship..."
Baby, she's just being nice. I'm sure she appreciates your friendship, but she may not like you the way you like her, otherwise, she would risk getting hurt if need be if it meant being with you. Ever heard of the phrase "I love you but I'm not IN love with you"? Don't give her the satisfaction, although I'm sure she's a nice girl.
As for Girl B, it's not fair to play second string. You should just tell her.
2006-10-13 14:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by ecclectic_28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from girl b.....don't try to fill your loneliness with someone because bad things always happen in the end! Tell girl a that you like her, and that you want more and if she doesn't want anything then move on!!!!
2006-10-13 14:19:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like you are really into Girl A. Even though she doesn't want to be more than friends now you never know she might want to be more someday (and that day might not be so far away.). I would spend more time with her cuz it sounds like you like her better than Girl B.
I would say Girl A
good luck
2006-10-13 14:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggeston would be to continue to be a friend....continue to hang out and do the things with girl A that you have been doing...dont change a thing...go with the natural flow of things...try not to develop expectations...keep them in check...allow things to develop naturally....you never know, maybe she will begin to feel the same...dont push but just allow thinsg to take its natural course..
2006-10-13 14:20:17 · answer #8 · answered by sincere030170 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know what? sounds like you're havin a relationship by yourself. lemme spell it out for you. she said, " i don't wanna risk ruining friendship". know what that means? it means, "I appreciate u taking me to dinner and shopping, but i'm not attracted to u".
with that in mind stop wasting your time. if your not feelin girl b like that see whats' up with girl c,d and e.
2006-10-13 14:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should choose girl A since she made u happy,anyway try to win her back, show to her that u are really into her...i saw that u had some chemistry with girl A and nothing with girl B, gudluck...
2006-10-13 14:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by cicibo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋