someone you just started dating? They know you have them, but you aren't sure when to let them meet them.
I'm a single Father.
2006-10-13 07:00:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as soon as you are comfortable. No one here will have the right answer. Only you know when.
2006-10-13 07:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mambers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband and I ever got a divorce I would not introduce my daughter to the guy until atleast 6 months of exclusive dating. I know a guy that has been dating a woman for 1 year and now he is just starting to think about having his son meet her. I don't think you should introduce kids until you are thinking you could see yourself marrying this person. Why put your children through anymore then need be. I am glad you asked this question because most divorced parents don't give it a thought and have their kids meet everyone...ugh....not good. I wish there were more men out there like you. The woman that you are dating is lucky to have you and so are your kids.
2006-10-13 14:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by trixinator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure that the woman is somebody I would approve of having around my children first and foremost! If you have only recently begun dating this woman, chances are you don't know all that much about her. I say you take more time getting acquainted with her before allowing that initial meeting to take place! You have to take a thing or two into consideration when facing a querry such as this! You want to set good examples and instill both morals and values into your children, therefore, you don't want them to se you "dating" alot of women. So, make sure she is going to be around for the long haul BEFORE you get a relationship started with her and the kids. Also, keep her involved in this decision as well as keeping your children's opinion's on the subject a priority as well. Take things slow-one day at a time...and, when everyone involved feels the time is right, start small, and work towards the larger picture!
2006-10-13 14:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by PBnJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mom and I waited 4-5 months before I let my boyfriend meet my daughter. I needed to make sure that he and I were compatiable with each other and spent A LOT of time together before I would let them meet. My daughter doesn't have a real strong bond with her father...he tries, but it's just not there. I did not want her to get attached to another man and it not work out. She does not deserve to have a lot of men coming in and out of her life..she is 3..and needs to have a stable home for her to grow in.
Once they did meet...it was almost and instant bond and they get along great now. I feel better knowing that I got to know him...through hours and hours of talking for months before they met. I would really get to know the person you are interested in before the child/ren are introduced into the relationship.
Good luck
2006-10-13 14:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by tiggers123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolute minimum three months. Preferably, six months. It depends on the age of your kids too. Don't rush it, if your kids have to do continual "meet and greets" with the lastest flavor of the month, it will freak them out and create problems later on. Other factors: How long have you been divorced? How often do you see your kids? These can all determine the "when" timeframe.
2006-10-13 14:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by yellowbugchickoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't introduce my kids to anyone unless we were really really serious. I would invite whom I am dating over for dinner with my kids there after you explain that you have a friend that you want them to meet. I would make them leave before my child would go to bed. And slowly do things together with the person you like see what your child thinks that's always important to let your child know that no one is put before them. So if your child likes them they will start asking about that person and ask them questions like would you like to invite them over if they say yes then invite the person you like let your child be involved. If your child doesn't seem to bond with them kick them to the curve your children sense if that person is good or not things you can't see. Don't go to fast your children need time to, don't push things on them to fast.
2006-10-13 14:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by April 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not too long, arrange a situation which would be good for everyone, maybe even a day at the zoo or park or a family activity, also that shows her what its like to be part of the family. Not saying your marrying her but she'd like that.
2006-10-13 14:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how you feel about her,. and is she any good with children you have to weigh all the factors in this one just be careful and use your head not yur heart when it comes to this. kids meeting someone other than their mother is going to be a little tough on all of yall. just take it slow and make sure that the children now that you love them and still respect their mother at least in front of the children anyway
2006-10-13 14:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by michaelslady95 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful with that. Do not let the kids get too attached to somebody, make sure this person is gonna be around for a while
2006-10-13 14:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two to three dates,
let your kids get an opinion of them!!
And if you see they totally dont get along then you will have saved yourself a few dates :)
2006-10-13 14:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you know you are going to continue seeing this person on a regular basis and are thinking long-term.
2006-10-13 14:04:59 · answer #11 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋