well i love my boyfriend but ever since i've been with him he has never had a job so when i wanted to do something i would have to pay for myself and himself aswell...he finally got a job that worked 10 hours 6 days a week and it hasnt even been a week and he quit his job. he called me this morning tell me he quit and he is coming home also to mention he also lives with me so everything that i do has to be doubled....my dad pays all the bills so he is basically lives here for free. and the most thing that hurts me the most is he quit his job even asking what i thought about it before he thought of quitting. i tried to discuss it with him and all he has to say is "there is nothing to talk about or i dont want to talk about it" ...i want to think positive about all this but i really dont know how to. PLEASE HELP....I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT......
2006-10-13 06:59:01 · 13 answers · asked by buffy08_sa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RUN FORREST RUNNNNNNNNN!!!
2006-10-13 07:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is not used to working for a living, then this may be the reason why he couldn't stand working 10 hours per day, 6 days a week.
Perhaps he should start out with a part-time job and then after some time get a full time job.
Of course, he is the one who has to do it. And if he refuses to look for work seriously, then I suggest that you dump him.
You cannot make him do anything he doesn't want to, even when you are paying his bills.
2006-10-13 07:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with someone who can't support himself and you is a violation of the women code. You shouldn't have to pay for him all the time sometimes is fine the whole 50/50. You should leave him he'll eventually go get himself a job and maybe then you two can talk about it. Until now you gotta let him go so he can learn to be independant and to be a M-A-N.
2006-10-13 07:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Bebe760 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people work jobs they are unhappy with, but the bills need to be paid. It is inexcusable that he continues to act this way. I know that it is easy for me to say and hard for you to do, but I think that you should consider asking him to move out. If he breaks up with you, it proves he was using you. If he uses it as an opportunity to get his life together, with your support, then he really just needed a push in the right direction.
2006-10-13 07:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by sounsure90211 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this boat once before. My ex mooched off of me for over a year. He finally got a job after i found out i was prego, however during my pregnancy and first year of our daughters life he held more than a dozen jobs quitting for dumb reasons (ex he got yelled at for being late every day he was there).
I say dump him now and move on. You'll be happier and better off for it.
2006-10-13 07:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing positive. The love you have here is not the kind you need. it seems like you have something like a parent-child realtionship with him. He needs to work and if he loves you he would get a job.
2006-10-13 07:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and discuss this. He has to realize that he is putting you in a difficult position and if he cares for you he needs to consider you when he makes a decision. If he is not willing to do this then he may just be using you and you need to get him out of your life and move on.
2006-10-13 07:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl run!! When someone can't even keep a job that is not a good thing. That is exactly why I am divorced right now.
2006-10-13 07:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by drubaby32698 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like that put people like us in a hole of despair. You can find someone better to take care of you. Not to sound old fasion but my dad has always taught me the man is supposed to take care of his woman and the woman is only supposed to feed him and keep the house clean. If he can't take care of you like you deserve then he doesn't deserve you.
2006-10-13 07:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by Tator Tot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definetily leave, he does not care about you and the only reason he is with you is because you get him what he needs and wants. You are better than that dump him and get a better one, those are all over.
2006-10-13 07:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by lluvia2wcc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a loser and a mooch, get rid of the loser before he takes more from you and daddy.
2006-10-13 07:03:23 · answer #11 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋