do we owe him the second child for his company?
2006-10-13 06:57:17 · 10 answers · asked by ram 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a 10 year old daughter and she loves being an only child. She can't stand chaos and actually prefers her friends to come to our house because her friends have brothers and sisters and its just to loud for her. My husband and I would get sooo much crap in the beginning after we had one kid "when are we having another" after about the time she turned 8 they finally figured out we as a family are happy with only one child. We can afford to travel and she is mature and well behaved that its fun taking her on trips with us.
2006-10-13 07:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by trixinator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have 3 kids, because we wanted more than 2 but we thought 4 would be overwhelming. Point being, I think you should have as few or as many children as you feel comfortable with raising, you shouldn't have another baby just so your child can have some company, that doesn't sound like a good reason to have another child. You must consider the sacrifices that you will have to make if you have more children. The more children that you have the harder it is to get things done or go anywhere to do anything. It takes a lot more effort and planning. Plus, it is an added responsibility and an added financial strain. When we had more kids we had to get a bigger home, vehicles, etc. I personally think that having siblings is great, but families come in all sizes and if you are comfortable with only 1 than I think that is fine. Just go by how you feel, I know when I had my third, I just felt like my family was complete. Take some time and think about all the aspects. I wish you all the best with your decision! Good luck!
2006-10-13 14:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by Momma_of_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is an only child. I could not keep up with more than one and still be able to give her the attention that she needed as she was growing up. We spent a ton of time doing things together, cooking, gardening, taking hikes, etc. that would have been almost impossible if I had had to divide my attention, as I also worked a full time job, plus was finishing a college degree. I also made sure that she had opportunities to learn social skills with kids her own age!
You don't "owe" your child a live-in playmate. Just be sure they get opportunities to interact with other children so they can learn how to get along with their peers.
2006-10-13 14:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe as long as you love that child and do not ignore it, as it grows up, it will not realize that it doesn't have a bro or sis. I was an only child and I had a cousin that became like my sister, but when we argued, she went home and that gave us a break so the next time we saw each other, we were happy again. Plus, my mom was the only parent I had and became my best friend as I grew older.
2006-10-13 14:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by swtsmiles1985 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have only one child who is now getting ready to turn 18. she has at times thougth it would be nice to have a sibling. then she would go to a friends house who did and come home grateful she didn't have one to get into her things. she also now realizes how nice it is that she gets all the love and attention. if she had siblings, she would not be able to have everything she does, as i would not have the money to "spoil" two children. she is very well adjusted, a straight "A" student, and never given me a days worry in 18 years. if you choose to have more children, do NOT base it on whether you think you other child needs one. do it because you want one!!
2006-10-13 14:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by Queen B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an only child and I never wanted siblings. I look at all the drama between my husband and his sister and I'm still happy that I never had siblings.
If we decide to have a baby we will take measures to ensure that it is an only child as well.
2006-10-13 14:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ravishing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am an only child i am twelve and i dont like being an only child.i get so stressed and mad because i have no one to play with and no ne my age to talk to whenever i need too.my parents might adopt another kid and i am so excitted.i think he would be relly happy to have another sibling.it gets really lonely.i am always at fariends houses and i am closer to their families then my own because i am never here becuse i get so bored .
2006-10-13 14:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by brittany e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's okay. I am an only child I personally I wouldn't change it for the world!
2006-10-13 14:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think folk should have at least 2 BUT ultimately the decision is up to the parents and what they can afford and handle.
2006-10-13 14:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. YOUR CHOICE. YOUR DESICION.
0-100 IF YOU WANT, JUST MAKE SURE YOU PLAN ON SUPPORTING AND LOVING THEM FOR THEIR WHOLE LIFE.
2006-10-13 14:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋