Our 22 month old is driving us crazy! It takes her a long time to get used to new people so we can leave her with them or even so she will play with them. If she is left with someone new she screams and cries the entire time. And if we are in the same room she won't let them hold her. She does this even though her older sister (who will go to anyone) is with her. We are very limited on people we can leave her with: my mom and step-dad and sister-in-law. And it took several visits just to get her comfortable with them. We have been unable to leave her alone at the church nursery so we can go to Sunday School. She wouldn't have anything to do with my grandparents while they were visiting. Now my dad is coming to visit us for 5 days and she doesn't know him, I'm afraid her additude towards him will ruin his visit. Is there a way we can solve this?
2006-10-13 06:55:42 · 11 answers · asked by mommyem 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Talk about him before he comes. Be excited about it and tell her "Guess who's coming today!" Get her excited so she knows she doesn't have to worry. When he gets there be really happy and be very friendly to him and show her that she doesn't have to be afraid of him or untrusting of him. It's all about trust. If she sees everyone else loves him, then she will too.
2006-10-13 07:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Give her time to get use to the other people. The more shes arround them the quicker she'll warm up to them. If your dad was to give her something special it might make her warm up even quicker. Stay arround while hes there. Just so she knows your still there. Never suddenly just dissapear. Many parents think this is the best solution to a crying toddler but this induces more panic when the child realizes mommys gone. Let her just warm up to grandpa. Stay in the same room with her while her and grandpa play. Maybe sit her next to grandpa at dinner (since you'll be at the table too).. involve grandpa in a lot of activities so shes with him lots! Good luck!
2006-10-13 07:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Christa Joy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Toddlers can be afraid of new people. I was even afraid of my own grandmother and aunt, as old as age 7, since I rarely saw them! Actually, it wasn't so much fear, as not wanting to be forced to hug and kiss them.
Do you ever force your child to be with someone without letting her get to know them? This could be most of the problem. Also, kids have preferences. My son, at that age, would go with some people but not others. They have a "sixth sense" about whether a person is okay or not. My kid's was usually very good!
Give your child time to get to know the people while you're there...even if it means extra time. Also, invite the new people to YOUR house, so she can meet them on "her turf". Tell them to let HER approach them, maybe by telling her they have some little gift or surprise for her. DON'T force physical contact!
If this doesn't work, take her to a child psychologist for evaluation. there may be some underlying cause for her fear, that has little to do witih new people.
2006-10-13 07:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some toddlers take a very long time to get use to people, especially if they are going through the separation anxiety stage. Let you father know about how she is. If he is understanding it will be easier on everyone. Let him give her some special things she likes, a doll, a blanket a special food she likes.....she'll warm up to him.
2006-10-13 07:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, theres no fixable solution. When my daughter was a toddler she acted like she was afraid of everybody besides her immediate family. It drove me crazy too. Unfortunately it takes time. It takes more than one or two visits for a child to warm up to other people and all you can do as a parent is be patient. Good luck.
2006-10-13 07:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How previous is your infant? youngster? what's the breed and gender of the puppy? And what makes you think of that he/she isn't already used to the canine. besides that's my solid concept that canine should not be presented to babies that youthful. till of path the canine replaced into already interior the abode whilst the child arrived. babies are stubborn and that they often mess with animals in techniques that motives the animal to retaliate and injury the youngster. At this youthful age the puppy hasn't found out a thank you to particular play with a newborn. do no longer enable them to spend any time on my own. in case you're in a single room the child comes with you. If the youngster is on the floor then shop an rather watchful eye on him. additionally instruct the puppy to grant the youngster area. the final ingredient you p.c. is an lively puppy leaping up and scratching/play nipping your newborn.
2016-12-26 18:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by valaria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a stay at home mom and don't get your child out much around other people. My daughter stopped being shy like that after I put her in daycare 2 days a week at 2 years of age.
Try getting involved in some playgroups. Try going to the library for toddler story time or something. Join MyGym or Gymboree.
2006-10-13 07:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by jevic 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is my foolproof plan. It worked for us and you should try it. We put a flat bottomed car seat in a dining room chair. The person that you are trying to acclimate her to should sit opposite her. They should talk to her and you should be out of the room. Sing or hum to her while giving her a bottom or meal. No matter how long she protests, they are to continue to bring the food up to her lips. Even if she does not eat it. She has to know that this is the person who will care for her by their attempting to give her a bottle and feed her.
Ours has broken down in each instance. The child seat offers the baby the security the need and the mealtime offering shows them the trust you have placed in them, and therefore they have to look to this person to feed them. Try it.
2006-10-13 07:07:50 · answer #8 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
LET HIM BE AROUND HER GRANDFATHER AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE WHILE HE IS VISITING, SHE WILL GET USE TO HIM. SHE IS JUST AT THE AGE WHERE SHE IS USE TO HER PARENTS. WHEREVER YOU LEAVE HER JUST BE SURE THAT THESE PEOPLE HAVE PATIENCE WITH BABIES SO THAT THEY WONT HARM HER. IF THEY TELL YOU ITS OKAY, LET HER CRY AND YOU CAN GO AHEAD. LEAVE HER AND YOU WILL BEGIN TO SEE A DIFFERENCE. SHE WILL KNOW THAT SHE HAS TO STAY WITH THEM. I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO LEAVE HER WHILE SHE IS CRYING BUT SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO BECAUSE THERE ARE THINGS THAT YOU MUST GET DONE.
2006-10-13 07:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Explain to your dad that it takes your toddler takes time to warm up to people and that he'll have to be patient. Then let her have some space so that she has time to get used to him.
2006-10-13 07:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋