2006-10-13 06:48:10 · 16 answers · asked by Natalia P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should I kiss on the first date?
2006-10-13 07:08:16 · update #1
My suggestion is to meet for coffee. Then, if you hit it off you can hang out as long as you want, and if it really doesn't go well you have an out when the coffee's done. Plus it's quiet enough you can get to know each other, not like going to a noisy bar or a movie.
I made the mistake of going to dinner on my first date with a guy I met online...wow...it was a disaster. He "forgot his wallet" at a very expensive restaurant, opened the conversation by "your profile was very vague on your stance on child-bearing...if you don't want kids we can't date"...but being a fancy restaurant the food took forever to get there, then there was the after-dinner coffee and dessert....
2006-10-13 06:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by pianoducky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Make sure someone knows where you're going and the details of your date.
2. Make sure you meet in a public place
3. Try to meet for an earlier meal; if things aren't going that well, you can leave during daylight hours.
4. Make sure you have your cell phone
5. Even if things are going incredibly well, and there's definitely an attraction, do not have sex on the first, second, third or even fourth date. In fact, as in any dating situation, no nookie until you sense there's a real relationship about to happen and everyone (including you) has shared RECENT test results.
6. If it's going poorly, be gracious and kind when bringing the date to an end. Don't commit to another date just because you feel sorry for someone.
7. Use common sense
8. Don't put too many thoughts and expectations in your head. Go with the flow.
2006-10-13 13:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't be too spooked about the "on line" thing. A lot of people do it. You've already been talking with this person so if they have been honest about themselves it will likely just flow from there.
That having been said, keep it safe. Meet somewhere in public where you can be around other people. Take your own car/provide your own transportation. Let someone know where you are going, with whom and when you think you will be back. Hopefully you will have a GREAT time together. The precautions are like looking both ways before you cross the street. It just makes good sense.
2006-10-13 13:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure it is in a public place and meet there. DO not have them come to your home. Have a friend call your cell about 15 minutes after you get there so you can play it off like an emergency if this person is a creep. You might also want to arrange to have a friend or two accidentially be at the same place that evening.
2006-10-13 13:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by sjl6987 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first date should be in a public place (movies and restaurant). And, just remember that if this date doesn't go well, you are not obligated to talk and/or go on a date again. Just look at if you are going to hang out with a friend (especially if things aren't right.)
2006-10-13 14:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by loves2dream2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Safety first! Get as much personal information as possible. If your County Clerk of Courts has a website, often you can search the public record and see if they have any criminal cases, restraining orders, outstanding child support, etc. Give a friend his/her contact info, and schedule to meet in a public place. It's less stressful to meet for lunch, in case there is no chemistry you have an out.
2006-10-13 14:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by yellowbugchickoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you have met someone online- and never met them in person - meet them in a very public place and don't give them you address- and do not go off alone with them- for all you know they may be a stalker or serial killer- and they told you everything you wanted to hear- be very careful= even consider making it a double date with another couple you know- and get enough info on him so you can check him out good- sex offender list and all- OMg- they are out there!! PROCEED WITH CAUTION= D
2006-10-13 13:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always let someone know where you are going and until you are comfortable you might need to bring along a friend. I dont want you to get hurt or come up missing so be very careful because htese days people or extra crazy and they will do stupid things. Take someone with you and also tell a couple of people be safe and i hope you enjoy your date. And another thing keep ya cell on and dont be afraid to use it.
2006-10-13 13:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is to set up a safe call system. Let a trusted friend know what your plans are around meeting this person and then if you don't call in at the given times they can alert the authorities should there be any problems. There are predators out there using the internet to set up thire pray
2006-10-13 14:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let seeing them "in person" intimidate you.
Be careful and aware that this is someone you met online so u really don't know him personally yet.
Don't give yourself away too easily or vice versa. Get to know each other before doing anything crazy or taking it to the next level, if u know what I mean.
Be safe. since you don't know if this "online" person is the person u think he/she is... meet somewhere where it's public and lotsa people around. so that in the case they turn out to be some internet psycho just wanting to meet random people online, then at least being in a public place, you have other witnesses and ppl nearby.
most importantly, it wouldn't hurt to BE YOURSELF!
2006-10-13 13:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by hawaiiangirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋