I just want help from whoever can give it. We have had a little fights between each other on different things. I want to know if I have put my relationship in jeopardy and what I should do about it.
2006-10-13 06:48:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first of all never go into any relationship thinking that it will be perfect, in this day and time that just doesn't happen. Fighting is perfectly normal but just make sure that you guys both work together to get things resolved. Never go to bed mad at each other cuz that just creates another day of being at each others throats. I have been with a guy for 2 years and its very rare that we go a week or to without getting into some sort of little bout about something. But don't be discouraged as long as you both have a hold on the situation and you don't let things get too out of hand. Come to a common ground on everything and things will work themselves out. Good Luck! Have a wonderful day!
2006-10-13 06:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by LAshlea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One year is a milestone, and not only in length of a relationship. I seem to find that couples right about at the one year mark suddenly start to realize that, wow! they've been with one person for a whole year... and that gives them the itch to go be with other people. Go with your gut. Have these fights just been normal nit picky fights? Have you just been noticing them because you normally don't have little fights? If so, it is possible that you two have entered a new comfort level in your relationship, where you aren't always courting one another all the time, and that is ok.
However, the fact that you think your relationship is in jeapordy makes me think that the above isn't whats going on. In nit picky fights, the beauty of it is that you both come away without really having changed opinion over your partner - you already knew his flaws, and so expected he'd go nuts when you left your socks on the floor. He gets upset, you try to fix it, and then it's pretty much forgotten - no lingering thoughts of whether the relationship is in jeapordy. Another possibility could be that you are you both trying to sabotage the relationship because you feel it's starting to be a bit boring. If you are young, this would especially be a consideration.
Having a long term relationship can be rewarding, but can be really hard to do when you are young and beautiful and have the whole world at your fingertips. And no one can blame you (or him) for wanting to test the waters before you settle down for good. If you didn't, you might regret it. But if that is the case on either of your parts, it would be better to gracefully exit the relationship before one of you stoops to cheating, and maybe reconnect later.
2006-10-13 14:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a whole lot of details to go on here... I can tell you, though, that based on my personal and religious beliefs and values, also, personal experience, there must be a leader in the relationship. If you try to make all decisions on everything a matter of consensus, it will not work.
Even a in "50/50" relationship, their must be a leader to make final decisions, and in a marriage a husband's and wife's role in the relationship must be defined and accepted by both. That will decrease fighting and arguing and each partner knows when it time to just submit on a particular issue because the other has the final say on that particular matter. It's already been agreed upon in advance.
For the sake of brevity, it's an oversimplification. I think you get the idea, though.
Good luck!
P.S. Choose your battles carefully. Sometimes it's just not worth it!
2006-10-13 13:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has fights with there spouse. i was with my boyfriend for almost 2 yrs and when it was our yr anniversay we got into a fight. but i didnt let that ruin our relationship. sooner or later you two are gonna laugh at this and just tell your spouse that you love them and just "try" and not fight. but im gonna say it no one never fights.. thats not normal.. its part of a relationship.. dont worry about it so much. good luck
2006-10-13 13:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by beth-y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just like my mom said the more you fight, the more unlove, car, and truthful your men or women will be it happen to me 1 time, you should take time to talk over your problems!
2006-10-13 13:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by pldjrftb@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋