what do you think can be good and bad effects of a doctor being married to an engineer???

Question

how successful can it be???

Answer 1

Depends on how long you've dated to see if you really can be compatable. It takes about 1.5 to two years to really know someone well enough to know if you want to marry them. Doctors work very long hours and don't have much time for a family life. The engineer would be the one making concessions and would be the primary caretaker of any children. The doctor also has much more potential for making money than an engineer, unless you live in a city with enough demand for excellent engineers. It's not really so much the jobs as whether your philosophies, expectations, child rearing plans, and religious beliefs are compatable. And being good friends is important, because when you are on the outs with each other the friendship can carry you through rough times without getting divorced.

Having worked in law since 1977, I've seen how such a fast paced, stressful environment affects pregnant women. Every one of the women I worked with, including me, were all warned they could lose their baby if they didn't take time off work to put their feet up and rest. I didn't end up in the hospital, but five women I worked with did with endangered pregnancies. It's not politically correct to say this, and you won't hear it in the news media, but the fact is work and pregnancy don't go together. A woman's pregnant body isn't designed to withstand the high stress and fast pace of work. If you are planning on having children, whichever one is the husband should make sure he is financially prepared to take care of the family on his income alone. Young children need a nurturing parent at home. If you don't plan on one of you being home to take care of your own children, you shouldn't have any. What's the point if you let babysitters and daycare centers raise your children? Be prepared for higher instances of illness among your children. They will catch every little thing that is passed around at the sitter or daycare, and they will pass some of those illnesses along to you. Something I've noticed throughout my entire adult life is how exhausted young children look. They need as much as 12 hours sleep, yet working parents often let their small and school age children stay up until 9 and 10:00p and later. Then the poor little things need to be up by 6 or 7:00a to shovel down food so they can be rushed off to the day care. Think of the stress! Children have to be in school all day, then need to do homework, chores, and engage in whatever sports their parents think they should be involved in. How would we feel if we had to work all day, then come home to a few hours additional work that had to be turned in the next day, plus household work, plus working out. Sleep deprivation can lead to psychosis (psychology 101). No wonder so many children are diagnosed with behavioral disorders. ADHD is like an epidemic in the USA! And think of all those kids on medication that can lead to depression, suicide and so on! What are parents thinking today? Where is their sense of responsibility for their own children? Where is the devotion of time with their children that is really needed to make sure their children are well rested, socially adjusted, and not stressed out?

If you and your intended don't intend on one of you being home raising children, then don't have children, or don't get married. The marriage will be loaded with resentment, loneliness, and exhaustion with some happiness scattered here and there throughout. And children need both their parents, so divorce should not be an option unless one of you and the children are in danger.

Answer 2

The money would be nice, therefore they can afford to do things right the first time around, like buy a house right away, etc. They both bring things to the relationship that are beneficial, like if one gets sick, there is a dr in home and if something goes wrong in the house, someone can figure out how to make it better and fix it (depending on the type of engineer).

Bad things? I cant say for certain, because they may or may not be compatible, and since i dont know them I cant really say. And even if i could, i wouldnt be the one in the marriage having to keep it together. I think one drawback is that they are both so educated that it may be a conflict if one's ego got too big. Lack of quality time with each other depending on the stages ni their careers.

Answer 3

Why WOULDN'T a marriage between a doctor and an engineer be successful? If you're thinking that the two people wouldn't have enough in common, then I'd say you're absolutely incorrect. My husband is a musician, and I am a Project Manager in a Scientific environment... and we have an amazing marriage. It's all about the compatability of two people's personalities - not what they do for a living. :)

Answer 4

Very successful!! They both have good jobs and get paid pretty well. The doctor will probably make more money than the engineer and they won't spend much time with each other.

Answer 5

That's a good income,listen don't let others make you think that is a bad thing when it's not,at least you both have a steady income coming into the house.Be sarcastic,if others doubt ask:Are you marrying him?Because they ar not in your shoes.Live a good and graceful life.

Answer 6

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But seriously, you are both prolly very detail-oriented, which is good. You won't drive each other crazy being so anal. Many doctors have long hours and you have to accept that.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I think that financially you'll be more than well off . . . but you might have to put in a little extra to spend time together and make sure that you don't drift apart . . keep the romance S P I C Y!!!

Answer 9

As successful as you make it. f you want it to work and you try you've got a good shot.

Answer 10

good: high income
Bad: not spending enough time together