Like a couple of weeks ago i asked my parents if i could go on a date with this boy i really liked but my parents like freaked out and said no, but then my brother came in and asked if he could go on a date with this girl he liked and they said yes.
(He's 14 and im 17)
2006-10-13 06:40:30 · 36 answers · asked by Korri babe 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No i mean my brother is 14 and im 17
2006-10-13 07:02:33 · update #1
They're being overprotective of you. You're their baby girl... probably their first born. Try to see this as a good thing, it means that they love you and are scared as heck to see anything bad happen to you. Often parents are more restrictive with girls because they see you as being more easily hurt than your brother. Not to mention the subconscious fear that you might get pregnant. This really isn't fair though, and you need to sit down and talk to your parents about it. You're 17 and you should be allowed to date who you want. Explain to your parents how they are making you feel, and reassure them that you know how to be safe. Offer to have your date come over to the house first so they can meet him, and do everything that you can to make your parents feel comfortable with the situation. After they realize that you're safe and capable of being on your own with a guy, they'll ease up and give you more freedom.
2006-10-13 06:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by deepwaters05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand it's very hard to be a parent nowadays. Parents want their children to be happy and to experience life as much as possible; but at the same time, parents need to be cautious under certain situations.
Don't think of it as being unfair because the bottom line is, your parents love you - they would never want you to get hurt. You're comparing apples to oranges if you only see your situation vs. your brother's as just "going out on a date". You're 17, so you must realize the kinds of worries that your parents have for you, as a girl. They don't have that kind of worry with your brother.
Do your parents know that boy you like? Maybe you can bring him home to meet your parents, so that at least they have a better idea of who your friend is. I'm sure your parents wouldn't object if they get to know your friend a little better; AND if he's a decent enough boy.
Remember your parents love you and will always be on the lookout for you. One day when you become the parent of a precious girl - you'll understand.
2006-10-13 07:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by ¿What Now? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents usually have rules they try to instill in the child as they grow. You being 17 should be able to make the wise decision. My kids grow up knowing they are not aloud to have a BF/GF until they are 16 & no sooner. Before that they need to concentrate on being a kid & enjoy it while they can because the rest of their lives they are an adult & can't turn back time. You're a young adult so sit down with them and ask them rationally and be ready to provide them with answers as to why YOU think your ready. They just want to protect you which is their job. My 20 yr old daughter is glad I didn't allow her to. She has a good guy by her side & couldn't ask for any better. Good luck...
2006-10-13 07:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by tygernside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably did the properly suited element by using telling your mom with regard to the date. you have got been in important difficulty in case you lied. I do agree that team dates are ok at 13. One on one dates on the different hand..at the instant are not. shop that for once you're 15 or so. not which you will do some thing incorrect yet whilst the boy is extremely pushy and you're in a team he could provide up lots swifter. And in case you have not given your mom a reason to not believe you then you definately've each precise to bypass. desire she enables you to bypass and greater of success which includes your first date and kiss;)
2016-10-16 04:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had problem like this too growing up. My brother was allowed to do everything. But not me!!! Now I realize that parents tend to shelter their daughters. We are more "delicate" I guess. They want to protect us, and make sure nothing happens. They worry about boys taking advantage of you, and fear that something BAD could happen. I wouldn't get too upset. Just understand that they mean well. Talk to them about it, ask them their reasons. Try to ensure them that they can trust you, and they have taught you well that you won't put yourself into bad situations. It's hard for parents to see their "little girl" grow up. But I'll bet that if you show them how RESPONSIBLE you can be, you can earn priviledges, such as dating. And besides, you are at that age where you should be able to start dating, BUT BE SMART ABOUT IT!!!!
2006-10-13 06:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are just trying to protect their daughters from all the bad things that can happen. Just think of how many times a week you see rapes and assaults on young women in your community on the evening news.
I'm sure your parents would feel better if you went out with another couple. Hang in there. They just love you and want to keep you safe.
2006-10-13 06:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents have always had a harder time "letting go" of their little girl. Girls are more easily harmed emotionally and physically, and maybe they fear your sexuality and the chances of getting pregnant.
You are 17, however. It is time to start TELLING them you are going out. And 14 is waaaay too young for a boy to be out alone on a date.
2006-10-13 06:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by rouschkateer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because your parents were teens too at one time and they know what teen boys think about and want to do...
Personally I think it is good for guys and gals to date and date often, and if they want to hookup then they should be responsible about doing so. Parents however still think of you as their little girl and want to protect you. My wife and I are different in that when we had young girls we talked with them and told them to be responsible...which they did and didn't but they are all good kids today...all 4 of them.
Please don't use what I say for an argument because you are their daughter not ours and they most likely do not think as we do. You as their daughter MUST abide by their desires as long as you are a minor and living with them.
2006-10-13 06:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not let my son date until he was 16 same for my daughter. Then is was group dates never one on one because girls are not always strong enough to fight off someone who wants to rape or abuse them. Did you know that most women are rapped by someone they know. We as parents are not saying we don't trust our kids it is the people they hang out with that is the problem. Offer to go out on a group day date with this boy. My kids survived it and they had fun.
2006-10-13 06:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by valarie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys cant get pregnant plus they can take care of themselves a bit better , maybe your parents are afraid you will get pregnant or they don't know or trust the guy and are afraid this guy will do something and you wont be able to protect yourself alone and vulnerable cause you like him, they are just being protective, maybe if they met this guy more than once and liked him they would trust him more.
2006-10-13 06:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋