2006-10-13 06:35:48 · 25 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wouldnt say you are foolish because you dont look at someones bank account and determine if they are right for you, you look at whats in your heart and the way you feel when this person and you are together. Just let him know that you would like to help him but for right now you have your own problems you must deal with. If you see the need to help if the situation is out of control and may require jail time or something like that then yes if you really love him try to help. But also be on the watch because osme dudes or out to get they bills paid and then they stick you with nothing. B wise i know you are and just look for signs that he might be trying to get over. I wish you the best and remember this is not your problem because he created all these financial problems before you were in the picture. be careful and just be smart because i know you are. much love
2006-10-13 06:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by cupcake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. First, determine why he is having financial problems. If he lost his job, etc. that is forgiveable. If he overspends irresponsibly, then realize that he is not going to change or if he does, it's not going to happen over night. If you care about him, go ahead and try to develop this relationship. Don't lend him money--two reasons. This may make him feel effeminate. Also, if you do continue with the relationship and the two of you are happy, he may not pay you back, thinking that since the two of you are together and seeing that you don't need the money (happened to me, but we're still together). Good luck!
2006-10-13 06:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by sounsure90211 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me just tell you that relationships break up because of financial issues, in fact, I believe that is the biggest reason for marriages to end. So, to pursue a relationship that is already starting out with financial issues is probably not smart.
Give him time to get himself in order, be his friend, emotionally support him, but don't get too involved in this relationship yet. Once his personal stuff is resolved, then see where the relationship can go. You don't want to get caught up in the financial mess as well, so try to wait it out.
2006-10-13 06:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you're that crazy about him...make sure he is just as crazy about you..if so, help your man. That's so attractive when a woman can play her role and help out with things that a man should already have down packed. It just shows that she's a strong woman who can handle her own as well as yours. The woman is the more superior being i don't care what anyone says...It's just that some don't carry those traits...But the ones that do can achieve and obtain anything in this world.....So think about that..Don't get used in the process of trying to be a good woman..thank u come again.
2006-10-13 06:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by NVR UNDRESTM8 KARMA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not necessarily. Just don't loan him money, or get married to him until you are CERTAIN (like, you've seen his tax returns certain) that he is in the clear again, and has established better financial habits, because his debt becomes yours when you marry. Interesting tidbit: Did you know that 1 out of 4 Americans considers financial infidelity (lying to a spouse about assets/ debt) a bigger deal than sexual infidelity?
2006-10-13 06:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
provided which you think of you could play alongside wisely. If that regarded conceivable, then i'd attempt a head-pretend: "pay attention that? -- that's the hearth alarm, the hearth branch is on their way. confident, i'm somewhat useful." and so on. Failing that, think approximately to distract the guy in basic terms long sufficient so which you would be able to get away and phone the paramedics. frequently conversing, nonetheless, on the grounds which you have a ideal to no longer be harmed and an criminal accountability to shield your self, it rather is superb to stay out of somebody else's fantasy.
2016-12-26 18:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by valaria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends upon several things. What caused his financial problems, do you believe he can over come these problems, could these problems affect you if your with him, how important is money to you....these and more questions are things you have to ask yourself. To some degree it has be a concern to you because if these problems are a pattern with him then you probably wouldn't want to be in a relationship with him.
2006-10-13 06:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful. People who have trouble handling their money often have trouble managing other parts of their lives. They tend to make committments they can't keep. But, if they can admit that they are not good at managing their money and are willing to let someone else do that for them, if its a spouse/partner or an accountant, there may be hope. Some people who are afraid to ask for help in one area may not be willing to admit they need help in other areas.
2006-10-13 06:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not crazy, just dont get your finaces mixed in with his. If you guys decide to get married, well you'll have to figure out what to do then. Don't lend him money unless you draw up a formal contract and don't take on any of his debt. Keep your finances out of your relationship.
2006-10-13 06:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Annette J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but be careful that you aren't investing your funds in the realtionship. Giving him encouragement is a good thing, but don't help him with money. He is not your husband. However some guys don't like the idea of women helping them. If you build one you can do cheap dates etc.
2006-10-13 06:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by Juleette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋