I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. The past couple months I have been really dependent on my boyfriend. I get upset if he doesnt come to see me after work or if he wants to go hang out with his friends I get upset. I know their is no reason for me to be upset b/c I know he loves me and wouldn't hurt me. I'm afraid that if I dont start depending on him so much he will leave me. I dont want to loose him. I'm ok for a couple hours but if he doesnt call or come over I get scared and start thinking all kinds of stuff. How can I stop being so dependent on him?
2006-10-13 06:27:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The more you make yourself available to a man, the more we will find other things to do. All males, like the hunt. If he felt that you had other choices, he would compete for your free time. But you seem like he can see you whenever, so why would he make the effort. Don't get me wrong, he loves you. That usually has very little to do with it. Make a list of things you are interested in; write a screenplay, sell garage sale items on ebay, workout plan, learn to cook thai food, hang with the girls, etc. When he is not around make yourself busy with them. It is too heavy of a responsibility on a man when he can ruin your whole day by not spending all avaiable free time with you. He will get tired of hurting your feeling and think it is better for you to be apart. Take baby steps toward your independence and he will take note.
2006-10-13 06:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by SupaDupaStar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've heard the saying "get a life." well this is what you need to do.
Surely there are other things in life that make you happy besides your boyfriend. Hang out with your own friends or take on a hobby, go to school or something that will improve your life.
Our mate should ADD to our life, not Be our life!
2006-10-13 06:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some friends! Go do your thing. Go out dancing, join a scrapbooking club, do something!Get a job. Get a gym membership. You have to have a life that is your own!
Do you have a guily consience? If you've done things in the past or in past relationships thats why you would be thinking hes not being straigt with you. If you cant trust him you might as well lose him now! It will never work.
2006-10-13 06:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by *RoCKsTaR* mommy of 1!! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Valerie W,
Hey I like clingy girls, but you are kind of mental with the anxiety. I hope that you are also into pleasing him when you see him and not just giving him the 3rd degree when he shows up. Good luck.
--Rick
2006-10-13 06:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your life revolves around your bf. BAD. Find something else to do. Create some goals and ideals for yourself and what you want your life to be. Go to church or join an organization or something. Find something to live for besides your boyfriend.
2006-10-13 06:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just trust him if there are no signs of cheating.Guys hate clingy girls and your man is going to get rid of you if you don't give him space.Trust me!Guys like a girl with a life
2006-10-13 06:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Belanova 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get your *** out of the house and do something. This is the reason for your thinking. It is not his job to entertain you that is your job. His job is to bring his experiences into your life just as you bring your own into the relationship. Do something don't sit around waiting for him.
2006-10-13 06:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by omvg1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mind busy and remember that hes not the only guy out there,and your life does not revolve around his.Friends and family might help too..
2006-10-13 06:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make more friends and take out time for them.When you're with them just be with them. This would give both of you some space..Enjoy!!!
2006-10-13 06:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by Giggles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's easy...depend more on yourself. Make him feel like crap. Things will go back to normal. trust me. When he feels as though u don't need him to cope anymore..He'll try to get you back to the way you used to be...But don't go back! Or you've given in to his plan!...thank u come again.
2006-10-13 06:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by NVR UNDRESTM8 KARMA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋