I was in a nice relationship that finishe because she didn't want to work things out after a minor bump we had, I was left alone so I had to rebuild my life on my own basically, she asked me to not to contact her, I respected that. She went to hang out with other people and meet new guys (I don't know if she dated, but at least I know she went out with guys), I missed her and had a hard time recovering, but with a lot of efforts I made it and I think I am almost done. Now when the recovering is over (or almost over) and I can finally feel comfortable by myself, she started sending me emails, 2 at the moment, first to remember the good memories and how happy she was, saying thanks for all those moments, I said I hope she is doing ok and I made it very brief. Now there is another email that I don't want to read, it's like going backwards. It looks like she is trying again and didn't find someone to love out there, should I try this or what?. I have hopes of someday meeting someone nice.
2006-10-13 06:15:53 · 14 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know exactly how you feel. What you do depends on how well you are able to handle the outcome. Are you willing to get back into a relationship with her? You don't want to be feeling like a doormat, keep that in mind.
Read the next email and respond if you want to, but keep it short and to the damn point.
I got dumped a few days before my birthday, 4 to be exact. And i took up extra classes and made myself busy to get over it. Yea i cried a damn lot, I even thought that I wouldn't last a week. And when I started to feel like, "okay, im gonna be iight" the fool calls and says he's just calling to see how im doing. If your strong enough, you can read that email and move on if you choose to.
2006-10-13 06:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mia L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried that she would try the same thing again. I take it being friends is out of the picture? I know that I cant really be friends with people I have dated, I will always care about them, and itd hurt to see them with others. Maybe you just need to find a nice girl who will be there for you. I swear nice people are impossible to find, I cant find a nice caring guy, so dont feel bad.
2006-10-13 06:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by musicgurl1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we all make mistatakes. Sounds like she made a mistake, the question is do you want her back? Can you forgive her mistake? Sometimes people don't realize what they have until its gone.
If you do go back you should make it very clear that the two of you need to learn to work out your differences together rather than running to other people or it will always be back and forth like that.
2006-10-13 06:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok,she broke up with u and told you to find other friends and stuff,thats normal i would think that the bump yall had was mabey somthin that got her off track a lil
now shes trying to get back with u ,she mite have realized that the bump wasn't a big deal,that it wasn't worth losin u over.
i think you should give her a nother chance.com'on shed probley do it for u.
if you realy love her u cant just get over her.if u love her dont let 'er go.
2006-10-13 06:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should politely ask her to stop contacting you. You respected her when she asked you, demand the same respect from her. I know it is really hard to move on unless you let go. That is unless you don't want to move on? You have to decide if she is the one, if she's not, move on and leave the past in the past.
2006-10-13 06:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over her, then this should be a no-brainer. You answer her questions, but you tell her that you've moved on.
If you aren't over her, and you don't want to be, then start talking to her again.
If you aren't over her, but don't want to get back into the relationship, then you need to tell her that. She should give you the same respect you gave her.
2006-10-13 06:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by hammer6505 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need this time to think things over, of course your confused you just were part of a realtionship and now things are differnt, your a freeman now. However it's best to take this timeto consintrate on your own goals and ambitions.
2006-10-13 06:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Juleette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on with your life and forget about her she is a very shallow person . You will find someone better who will treat you with the respect you deserve . i did and we have been married almost 10 yrs . my 3rd marriage and my last and my best so far,Good luck and god bless you.
2006-10-13 06:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to ask her whether she's starting all over again because its very difficult to even try to forget the one you love. If you really aren't interested just tell her that you don't wanna start it all over again.
2006-10-13 06:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Giggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back to where she left you, man. It's not worth it! Pray to God to protect you from the evil one!
2006-10-13 06:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋