I have been seeing my BF for 4 years and till a year back I thought we had complete honesty with each other till I found an archive where he was sex chatting a woman in Tawain .I was devastated since I thought our sex life was good and confronted him and he said it was a mistake and would not do it again .He did stop but just for a while.Since I have to be away from him for 3-4 months at a strech i realised he may be doing it in my absence and i kept mum but what shocked me is that now he uses another ID unknown to me and cybers with her while I am asleep upstairs.Its very insinuaiting .He removes all traces before I wake.I feel I cannot marry this man as I will not be able to trust him but on the other hand he is very generous caring and a nice man at heart though our sex life had gone down because he fulfills his desires online. I am in a dilemna as to whats the solution as I am sure he will cyber again once I am away.Should I confront him .He is a 56 year old man and I am 46
2006-10-13 06:14:19 · 12 answers · asked by abi s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, to me cyber sex is not cheating, lucky is not real sex. Then he really cheated you. For me if the absent of your girl/boy friends an finding emptiness. People tend to over react and I call it lonesses or in other words, if you can't really satisfied him or her then this were go hey wire in the mind, if they are a horny people like me. I am a hungry for sex all the time cause I can't get what I want like: ********, horse riding and so on. I were start to mastered myself to get the excitement. you see. It depend on how high your sex drive is. I am only 47yrs and I have been hunting for sex all time. You may call me dirty minded but this is humble natural. Try talking to him and solve his problem, it's luck she don't stay near your house. If not this were not only be cyber sex but real sex. Cause, you are away most of the time, man need lady, so do lady need man. Put yourself in his shoe and I believe you were do the same as what he is doing. Unless you could satisfied him. Feel free to mail me at : slimboy4448@yahoo.com.sg Hope you know what I mean. Thank you for listening.
2006-10-13 09:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by shellman8888 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is cheating and your age you should know that . Get away from, that man. You can never trust him by himself. cause some day cybering may not be enough . He may pick up some woman off a corner and then you are left with something you cant get rid of . Run as far and as fast as you can away from him. See and he is being sneaky about it too. Go just go and find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve. Good Luck and God bless you.
2006-10-13 06:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss it with him and find out why he feels he needs to do this. My standard response to porn of any kind is that it isn't harmful unless it is taking the place of human relations. What I mean is, if you use pornography together as part of a loving relationship to find mutual fulfillment, that is one thing. Once he has begun hiding it as you describe,it is hurtful and can be devastating to a relationship.
I would say that you need to confront him, it may already be too late. If he won't or doesn't give it up, then you need to find a man that deserves you. This behavior isn't right and you deserve better. Good Luck!!
2006-10-13 06:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, for some reason he has become addicted to the cyber thing I would suggest that maybe with counselling he may get away from it but unless he is willing to get rid of it, then you would definitely be better off without him. I personally don't understand it because having the real thing in my hands has to be the ultimate . I have never found anything to compare with spending my time and effort trying to totally satisfy my partner in the flesh.
2006-10-13 07:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by nidan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion this is obviously cheating....he and she are sexually gratifying themselves together via webcam. There's obviously something wrong here...perhaps your long absences have made him lonely to the point that he is now seeking this for his sexual release...she's always there, you aren't, and he's become infatuated somehow. My advice is to tell him flat out that you know he's still doing it, and try to find out why. Personally I think that you can do better than this guy...if he loved you he'd be having phone sex or cyber with YOU when you are apart. (something perhaps to consider to spice up the love life, assuming you still want to be with him). If you can't work it out just flat out tell him to stop or its over. I can tell you as a 43 yr old single guy that there are many guys your age that are seeking someone nice. Go find one.
2006-10-13 06:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by answerman63 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't confront him, don't give him that satisfaction. Get rid of him. That's got cheater written all over it. Why would he need that if he has you? And if you can't trust him with this, what makes you think you can trust him with anything else. Been there done that, it 's not good for you, nor your self-esteem. Find someone who is completely full filled with you, or just be happy with you...
2006-10-13 06:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is a sick and perverted man . i would drop him, understandable that you been with him for 4 years. No i would not continue seeing this man. My man confessed that he was inappropriatly talking to this Biotch online. Now i know both of her screen names and i know that he dont talk to her anymore. See the thing is he needs to grow up being 56 yrs old. I hope you can talk to him more or knock some sence into this man. if not you need to find yourself a man who loves u for u and .............damn the internet i wish it would of never came about
2006-10-13 06:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
get rid, hes a sex mad pervert, if he really loved you he would wait not do that while your away, and why is he online while you are asleep why are you not in bed together, now thats suspicious, my bf does it all the time, but i have mad eplans to leave him get rid soon, and im not even going to say anything, thats the perfect revenge, because these women online because there so far away he cant have them around so soon get sick of it
2014-08-11 13:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you've confronted him already and he says sorry why do you worry yourself again. Maybe he is just chating in the romance room. Is your husband a womeniser.? Stop hurting yourself and pray to God.
2006-10-13 06:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Funny, cheers for posting.
2016-03-28 07:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋