2006-10-13 06:11:42 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he is my boyfriend but he is the gem of a person. i don't even have 2 say i he EXACTLY knows what my heart seeks whereas my family is askin me 2 leave him just coz its a question about their PRESTIGE
2006-10-13 06:32:29 · update #1
but its not him its my family thats forcing me 2 leave him
2006-10-13 06:40:28 · update #2
i understand what you are going through as i myself live in that horror everyday wondering wether or not my family support me when i find my love.let me tell you one thing if your love for both is true and when i say true i mean not the melodramatic one bu tgenuine love.if you really can see yourself with this guy for the next 20 years then go ahead and choose the guy.beware of golddiggers because its perhaps this misconception that is preventing your family from understanding.they probably think he is after your money or status.if you know that this is not true then you show it to them.ask them to ive you a chance and remind them that despite of their prejudice you have asked them rather than runaway.ask your guy to bond with your family and let them know him.if they refuse again givin the prestige crap then honestly they are either scared or being selfish.remember you dont have to do anything its all about you and only you!!you are the one who will live as mrs whateverhisnameis and not as their daughter forever.prestige is nt the secret of a healthy marrige!!!!!
2006-10-13 07:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by s4e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family is always first, providing the family is normal, so to speak, and if your BO doesn't understand that, then he shouldn't be your BO. Obey your parents rules, and bear in mind that many couples your age have experienced similar circumstances, thus there are ways to smooth out the situation at hand, so to speak. One way is to make your BO your silent partner; some times being sneaky is acceptable depending on the persons involved;) Good Luck
2006-10-13 06:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats real tough,, It sounds cliche but listen to your heart do what you think feels right..
I dont know about your relationship with either your family or love but i know in my case my family and i have an unbreakable bond they've been there for me since i was born but lovers come and go !!
But then again a very special love is hard to find and if you have it try to hold on to it !
2006-10-13 06:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by QbanG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say. by the way does u really have to choose either one?
then ok, in my opinion if u r not married yet choose your family as you will always fall in love with another guy later but your family would not change.
but if u r married, then i think ur husband should be the one as u are now responsible to your own family ( u and ur husband n son). hope that help
2006-10-13 06:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say follow ur heart...
but...remember ur family will always be there for and if they do really care then they will support u if u are in a difficult situation....
The family can be seen as alittle more important than love....but through my personal experience, love does win.....if u have chosen the right person they should not make u choose..
So its difficult really, just follow ur heart and be honest with the ones close to u
....with honesty u earn alot of respect...with respect u will earn alot of support and with this support u can gain alot of choices....
Good luck!
2006-10-13 06:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I feel for you.
My wife had to make this choice. Since she is my wife you can see what decision she made.
It all is for the best if the family is not understanding of your feelings. Now if your family has a good reason to not like the person then maybe you should listen.
Follow your heart...
2006-10-13 06:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by mmiller0617 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I have been there and I chose my love and then when there was a problem between me and my hun I had nobody there. Dont make that decision you are your own person so you do not have to make that decision. Dont ask questions or try to reason say that your are NOT going to make that decision. Just dont bring them around each other.
2006-10-13 06:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by DeborahUlloa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever asked you to choose obviously doesn't care enough about you for you to bother worrying with them. I'd let that part of my life go if I were you. You CAN'T choose between the two, you love them both, and if one or the other can't accept that, then so be it, they can make your decision that much easier...
2006-10-13 06:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let that person know that you are not going to choose because you love them both. If whomever chooses not to be around then oh well let them go! You know you love them, continue on too. Most important you shouldn't have to choose because you know no matter what "your family is going to be no matter what".
2006-10-13 06:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admit it extremely is a tricky question. yet by way of fact i'm married, i could p.c. my spouse coz it extremely is declared in the bible that the guy shall provide up his kin and alter into one together with his spouse. submit to in concepts, you may't make your self a kin which includes your individual kin. i think of determining on your loved ones could be like protecting your self from having what's think to be yours. I reckon in case you prefer a kin your self think ofyou've have been given to top your love over your loved ones. the two way it extremely is an extremely close call. You deserve a megastar in this one.
2016-10-16 03:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by felio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋