Has anyone else had this problem? My parents and my husbands parents were so thrilled to have these grandchildren, but now they hardly ever want to spend time with them. My father and his wife live 15 minutes away and we may see them 3 times a year. My mother-in-law retired from her job 2 years ago because she "wanted to spend more time with her grandchildren", but we're lucky to see her once or twice a month. She also acts like it is such an inconvenience for me to ask her to baby sit, which I only ask her maybe 5 times a year max. My kids are angels when they are with their grandparents, so behavior is not an issue. I have taken it upon myself to go visit them, but then they act like you have just intruded on their day, so I have just stopped going. I am starting to take offense to this, especially where my mother-in-law is concerned since she used my kids as her excuse to retire and now never comes to see them. Any suggestions on what I should say to them if anything at all?
2006-10-13 05:57:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OMG had the exact same problem it split me and my partner up in the end we constantly rowed about it,my parents see their granchildren all the time but his never bothered even thou they lived 10 mins away,all i can say is speal to your partner about dont let it get between you both,and at the end of the day its their loss they are the ones who'll regret it wen the kids are older.Good luck
2006-10-13 06:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing with both grandparents of my son. They act like it is so much of a big dealto have to watch their kids for 15 minutes while i run to the store. I dont care though, my son has enough love he needs from his father and I. And we are split up!
2006-10-13 13:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what that is their problem why do you even care? You know your kids probably already know that their grandparents are not very into being with them and your kids will resent them for it. The kids will get older then they will tell grandma about herself . Mine did when they were 12 and 14 . And you know what i let them do it . They got it with both barrels . the rest of the family got mad at me for this ,but I could care less. so do not worry about this the kids will let grandma know. Good Luck and God bless.
2006-10-13 13:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we have the exact same problem in our house. However, now the kids don't want to spend any time with them. Everything had to be done at their convenience, and the kids just gave up trying to have that relationship.
2006-10-13 13:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by nothing anymore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since they're retired, they are probably always looking for something FUN to do. Do you invite them over for meals?, How about family outings: piknics, zoo, nature trails? Give them something to brag to the senior citizens about. They'll love that.
2006-10-13 13:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by tobeyp2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine were like that to us grandkids. you have to show interest in them, and have the grand kids send letters and stuff to the grandparents. but let the grand parents also have thier space. they didnt want to live closer just to be babysitters.
2006-10-13 13:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by Surf n' Snow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, they are getting old. You just have to force them to see your children and encourage them to do fun activities with the grandchildren. They need motivation and you need to help them with that.
2006-10-13 13:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Your Wife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DON'T DO ANYTHING. they are grandparents. they have no responsibility to see, visit or babysit their grandkids. and it's not your responsibility to make that happen. continue on with your life
2006-10-13 13:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Accept them for who they are and move on with your life without worrying so much about what they will or won't do, because that's THEIR business and NOT YOURS!
2006-10-13 13:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋