i love him so much and we are planning on getting married in the future. but sometimes this bothers me...she says shes gonna make his life a living hell!!
2006-10-13 05:57:00 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's probably right. She will try. Are you ready for that kind of a future?
2006-10-13 05:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow....sounds like a bitter female. so he wants to marry you and obviously not her. that's always a start. However he did knock her up....and he does have a responsibility to the new baby. That will never go away. So have you talked to your husband about what his plans are for the new baby? visitation? custody? child support? when you get married, his problems become your problems. do you love him enough to take this on? and yes she can TRY to make his life a living hell, but the fact it he doesn't have to let her. get everything court ordered. NO MATTER WHAT. once everything is set in stone, she cannot break that order. if she does she runs the risk of losing custody. so be smart. you can make this work if you really want to.
2006-10-13 06:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have been careful. You are putting yourself in a life long triangle and you should make sure it's worth it. What if he goes back and forth or gets a girl pregnant every time he breaks up with you. Also consider whether he would want to be with you and marry you if you were pregnant with another mans child and he hadn't gotten someone pregnant too. Personally I think it's a mistake to be with a man who would have unprotected sex with another woman, adding getting her pregnant, and then just walk away from her like that. He could do the exact same thing to you.
You need to watch out for your best interests and let him live with his own mess that he created and wants to drag you into.
2006-10-13 06:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the good thing is that it didn't happen when you guys were together. However, bf and gf who have babies in the picture make it difficult if they are in a current relationship. Problems are always going to follow you with the babies mom. She will always have a problem with her babies father having another girlfriend. It will cause you a lot of problems in the future. Specially, if you want to have kids with your boyfriend in the future. YOu and the babies mother are always going to battle with each other if she doesn't get her way. She is always going to use the baby as an excuse to get what she wants.
2006-10-13 06:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Yessenia A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's going to make both of your lives a living hell. If you marry him she will be in both your lives and your children's lives forever. Honestly if I found out my fiance who I would give my life for and I love so much had a baby with some skank I'd break it off. I don't know if you watch Desperate Houswives (if not than this is a poor example) but the lady who plays Lynette's husband had this really whorey chick show up saying she had his kid and is destroying thier lives. That's going to be you if you don't end it. I'm sorry that whore ruined your life.
2006-10-13 06:00:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one but if you stay with him it may only get tougher because each time you have a fight you will use this as ammunition on top of that you will have whatever drama she will be causing at the time. Ask yourself if you love him enough to live through all of that for the rest of your life. Just some food for thought. Good luck!
2006-10-13 06:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by SittinPretty! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have made this mistake many a time before. You are not a dog hon. Only dogs eat their vomit.
Anyway, if it bothers you then you probably shouldn't do it.
The child's needs is always going to come before you. And the mother could use the child to get back at you. Do you really want this? I do no think you do. So you know what i think is the best thing to do.
2006-10-13 06:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change what he did before he met you. It's okay for it to bother you sometimes. After all, he's going to bear some financial and legal responsibility for this child (assuming she keeps it), for the next 18 years.
And it takes two to tango. It's as much her fault as it is his. I'd suggest he order a paternity test right away, that way you can get straight to work on the legalites.
2006-10-13 06:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by gamergeekgirl_otter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will probably make his life a living hell. Remember, that is HIS baby and for the next 18 years, 'they' will both be involved in your lives.
It might be a good idea to let this man go. You don't need the baggage he is carrying.
2006-10-13 06:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD KNOW SHE'S GOING TO MAKE IT HELL.
YOU WONT WANT TO BE HIM WITH AFTER AWHILE.
IT COMES TO THE POINT WHERE SHE'LL CALL AND SAY THE BABY IS SICK AT 3AM. HOSPITAL, DIAPERS, EMERGENCY,
AND THERE WONT BE ANY EMERGENCY, JUST HER BEING AN ASSHOLE.
AND YOU CANT SAY SH$T CUZ THEY HAVE A BABY AND HE HAS TO GO REGARDLESS.
SHE CAN FOLLOW HIM TO THE END OF THE WORLD
AINT THAT A *****.
SHE PROBABLY PUT A HOLE IN THE CONDOM TO DOTHIS TO HIM.
GIRLS ARE GRIMEY THEY THINK A MAN WILL STAY IF THERES A KID.BUT THEY WONT
REMEMBER THIS "BABY MOMMA PU_$$Y IS 4EVER PU_$$Y
2006-10-13 06:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by GrownNSexy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sure will make ur lives hell!Ur b/f has2take responsibility 4 the poor kid unfortunately.It's gonna b a tough ride buh u shudnt let it break u up since u 2 love each other.Gud luck.
2006-10-13 06:02:42 · answer #11 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋