I've just found out my girlfriend, of 3 years, is expecting our first baby. Unfortuantely i'm not 100% sure how to deal with this. I want to be as helpful as possible during her pregnancy. Any suggestions on what I should or should not do??
2006-10-13 05:53:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
BE VERY SUPPORTIVE OF HER AND MOST OF ALL TRY TO BE PATIENT WITH HER. SHE IS GOING TO BE VERY IRRITABLE AS WELL AS IRRITATING. IF YOU LOVE HER, YOU WILL PUT UP WITH HER THROUGHOUT THIS PREGNANCY. IT WILL GET FRUSTRATING AT TIMES BECAUSE HER HORMONES ARE AT THERE HIGHEST. SOME DAYS WILL BE COOL THOUGH. THEN THERE ARE DAYS THAT YOU WILL BE WONDERING WHAT DID YOU DO WRONG. SHE WILL BE FUSSING, YELLING, CRYING OR SOMETIMES NOT SAYING ANYTHING. REMEMBER YOU HAVE YOUR PART. JUST CONTINUE TO TREAT HER AS YOU ALWAYS HAVE BECAUSE THIS WILL ONLY LAST FOR NINE MONTHS. BUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP COULD LAST A LIFETIME. I AM GOING TO BE HONEST, ITS NOT GOING TO BE EASY. JUST STICK WITH HER BECAUSE THAT IS YOUR BABY ALSO. WHEN SHE WANT SOMETHING, TRY TO GET IT AND DO NOT SUBSTITUTE IT FOR ANYTHING ELSE BECAUSE SHE WILL NOT BE SATISFIED. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! GOD BLESS YOU, YOUR GIRLFRIEND, AND THE NEW LITTLE ONE.
2006-10-13 06:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by PRECIANA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want this baby? Do you love her? If so, it doesn't matter because there is a baby coming into this world whether you were ready or not.
Now you have to decide if you are going to commit to this woman either by marriage, or just by sticking by her and supporting her. Raising a child is a huge responsibility emotionally and financially. Get ready for a roller-coaster ride. Life is just beginning!
2006-10-13 13:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what she says! Be her support system. Some women have it really rough during pregnancy. The best you can do is be there for her. Pamper her. Who knows. She may have the same concerns as you. I am sure you will be a great father. Congratulations.
2006-10-13 13:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be supportive and caring! tell her that she's beautiful and that you love her! Let her know that she is important to you and make sure she gets alot of rest and eat healthy! Accompany her to her dr. visits and help her around the house! Take her out and express your feelings to her!!
Check on her and ask her about her day as well as make sure she doesn't need anything! Wait on her hand and foot and keep her comfortable!! Exercise and walk with her!! Give her ideas and names for the baby and talk to the baby as well as rub her back, feet, and stomach!!!
Congratulations and Good Luck
2006-10-13 13:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by angellove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going to have her emotional day's...just be patient, it won't last forever. How old are you? If your younger, be prepared to stay in school and get a part time job, babies are very expensive. Once you see your baby you will feel a love that you've never felt before. Everything works it's self out.
2006-10-13 19:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider getting married so her and the baby can be on your insurance and get benefits if you die. Having a baby is a big deal, you are going to have to grow up now and be a responsible adult. As she gets bigger she is going to be able to do less and you will have to do more. Good luck and have a healthy baby.
2006-10-13 12:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just help her out in any way she needs it. Be patient and caring. Be appreciative of what she has to go through. Be there for her and treat her like a queen. You got a big job ahead, better get started!
2006-10-13 12:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question shows that you want to do the right thing & be responsible.
If you're not sure you want to marry your gf, don't let yourself be pressured into it or you'll both regret it later.
Most important, I think, is your child. I assume that you're willing to accept paternity. Whether or not you decide to get married, you must be prepared to help support him/her for many years.
2006-10-13 13:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by WillyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive and dont argue, try to make it to all the doctor appointments, help out with house cleaning.
2006-10-13 13:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by christy s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a job. You're going to be supporting the kid for 21 years.
2006-10-13 12:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by Jim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋