My cousin is constantly asking to borrow money. We haven't given her any for several months now. But, she still calls every 2 days and asks to borrow $5.00. How can I get it through her head once and for all that we are NOT giving her any more money?
2006-10-13 05:48:23 · 32 answers · asked by zil28ennov 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like she has a drug problem and is so desperate for it she'll do anything to get enough money. Unless you tell her that the conversation stops when she asks for money and you hang up, then there probably aren't many options available.
2006-10-13 05:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by jbrowning001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she owe you money that you have loaned her in the past? I had a similar problem with a cousin. She borrowed and promised to pay back, asked again and promised to pay back...Twice I loaned her money and she has yet to pay me back any. She would call every couple of months and I told her no...Finally I said that I would be happy to loan her money again as soon as she paid back what she owed me from the first two times, but until she paid me what she owed me, I would not give her another dime. Tell her that when she pays back what she owes, she can ask again, but until then the answer is no and will not change because you can not trust her to pay you back... Borrow and loan imply money will be paid back...
2006-10-13 05:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep saying "No". The only other thing is to tell her that when she calls and asks for money, the minute she says can I borrow you are going to hang up the phone.
2006-10-13 05:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best guess is to tell the person to listen to you and once they have agreed, tell them as stern and gently as possible, "We are not supporting your finances anymore." Ask them to repeat that to you and then make sure they understand. the other thing too is family usually wants to know your resons behind your no answers just as much as you want to know what your money is going toward. I work with alot of marrital and family issues in the military as a chaplain assistant and having people speak back to you what you have said really works. Hope that helps
Steve
2006-10-13 05:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by pressersf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you don't have any & tell her to get a job because $5.00 isn't a lot these days. If your cousin had a job, she wouldn't be borrowing so little.
2006-10-13 05:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask her why she is so greedy. Say it plainly to her face that you are not a bank, and she should work to get her own money. Tell her you would stop giving her anymore money if she wouldn't stop bothering you, or change your number if she keeps behaving like a maniac.
2006-10-13 05:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep saying no. tell her if she calls agian for money you will stop taking her calls. Then if she calls and asks for money again - dont answer the phone - give her a fair warning and then follow through with it.
2006-10-13 05:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by donyafs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to call you when she is ready to pay back all the money she has borrowed in the past!
2006-10-13 05:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her phone calls! Plus let her know that asking you for cash is a waist of time because you won't give her a dime.
2006-10-13 05:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by cOMpLiCaTeD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her point blank that you are not saying no this time, but you have no intentions of ever loaning her any more money and mean it. You should only have to stand your ground once and she'll know you are serious.
2006-10-13 05:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋