Messy/Neat?

Question

I'm analy clean, I like everything to have an order. My bofyriend and I don't live together currently. He's incredibly messy. Do you think when we get married this could be a huge problem in our lives? Do you think someone who is messy can ever change?

Answer 1

yeah they can - trust me
I am also clean freak and my fiancee is messy - since we have lived together he has become cleaner than before, helps me with the cleaning, washing etc.. and even learning to iron - just make sure the ground rules are set that he has to help you and it all comes with time

Answer 2

It may just cause problems when you get married, unless you talk it over and make a plan on to incorporate both of your ways into one house hold. I have seen someone get extremely depressed because they moved in with a messy person. I have actually gone to their house and helped her out in cleaning, because her man won't. So, it might be something you want to work out before getting married. Never no he may see the advantages to having a clean home.

Answer 3

Yes they can, especially if they live with a clean person. I was messy and lazy and hated to clean until I moved in w/ my best friend who was a neat freak. She made me feel so bad when company would come over and her room was nice and neat and mine... well let's just say I kept my door closed. I eventually became pretty neat myself. It's three years later, new rommate, and now I'm the clean one. So yep, he can change if he wants.

Answer 4

If he'll feel that what you two have together is more important than his old ways, he'll change... And you'll have practicaly nothing to do with it... But maybe you're a little too exagerated yourself, I mean it's not just him... You may also undergo some changes... Be prepared for it, and try not to resist it out of pride... Relationships are all about communication, about listening to "the other side of the story"... Take care !

Answer 5

Maybe if he knows that it bugs you to have a messy house he might shape up. It won't be a huge problem if you can compromise. Just think too clean makes him uncomfortable. Tell him about this.

Answer 6

Yes its like a light bulb went off in my head the other day. Now Im not a nasty person but my room was cluttered. My mom kept begging me to clean it but I wouldn't. Before I went to bed I looked around and said eww I really need to clean up this room. I cleaned it the next day after I got off work and its been clean and neat since then. I think you should just talk to your boyfriend but I believe sooner or later he will start to pick up after himself.

Answer 7

He wont change completely. He'll probably pick up the slack a little bit. But it will still work ok, because you'll clean up after him and he'll feel guilty about it and will be willing to help out to keep the place clean. Use sexual favors for a bribe to keep him clean, this will keep things clean and satisfy your sex life.

Answer 8

In between. i do no longer in basic terms flow away concerns mendacity round my room. I positioned them of their position (obviously "their difficulty" is a drawer the position i positioned a group of random stuff that i do not continuously use. i attempt to positioned the stuff i might want to easily use sometime quickly ontop and the stuff i really shouldn't use on bottom. notwithstanding im no longer a neat freak. Like i do no longer airborne dirt and mud or vacuum my room each and every of the time.

Answer 9

Good question.
Habit never never change.
YOu must pepare to tidy up all his messy stuff..
He will help you if he wishes, but not guranteed.
I have a friend who has very high IQ and morality
but too messy (even smelly) in his room.

Answer 10

You need to train him NOW. Teach him how to clean. This way he knows what to expect and see where it goes from there. My husband and I are the same way (i am neat, he is messy) And we do fine.