Ok, so I can’t tell a woman in a very kind way that I am not happy with her weight (I realize she knows and no one male or female wants to hear it). So I guess you women realize that when your man lies to you it might be because you don’t want to hear the truth. Someone said that I should get away from her, ok, so if a guy thinks your fat he should just dump you with no explanation because telling her about her weight will hurt her feelings. So what if I find myself less attracted to her? Don’t you think she will notice me withdrawing and get upset? I cannot believe all of the mixed responses I get from you women. Men have to be honest and lie about it at the same time and don’t get caught because that might hurt your feelings. I am not trying to take a jab at females I just want to understand. Here is my conclusion based on some of your responses, I have to either live with her weight as is or leave, either way never mention her weight. Do I have it?
2006-10-13 05:20:31 · 14 answers · asked by winterlinda21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't tell her she is fat. Have sex with her a few more times and then dump her. She'll meet a guy sooner or later. Try an Asian girl. They are thin.
2006-10-13 05:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe dont tell her directly. Although I do think it is very healthy that you are working out this issue in your mind and are trying your hardest to make things work at the same time as being respectful to her.
How about working on the weight issue together.. suggesting going for a walk or eating out healthy or if you live together subtly changing her eating habits to healthier snacks etc.
One way to encourage her to lose weight is to plan a holiday to a coastal area.. that way she may slim down to wear her bathing suit. If not, buy her some lingerie in a smaller size than what she currently wears, this may entice her to lose the weight to wear it (only go 1-2 sizes smaller or the goal will not be realistic and worth striving for) on the other hand you could purchase her some lingerie 1-2 sizes too big and guilt her into losing the weight also.
There are plenty of tactics that might assure you live to see a ripe old age, but coming out with it directly is not a good idea. How would you like it if she came out and told you, you had a small dick?
2006-10-13 05:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that there's *ever* a good way to answer the "fat" question, (short of "here take my credit card and buy some new shoes"), but you might try phrasing it as a concern for her HEALTH rather than for her appearance.
This doesn't guarantee she won't be offended if you say something like "Hon, I'm worried about your health with the weight you've been putting on". She still might take it badly. If you really want to soften the blow, don't mention it at all - sign up for a gym with her or some couples dance classes, and tell her you feel out of shape, would she please exercise with you to keep you motivated?
You're right, in a way, you can't be outright honest about this unless you don't care about offending her, and if you didn't care, you wouldn't be asking. I guess I can be objective about this because I've never been overweight personally, so I'm not going to be offended ;).
2006-10-13 05:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by gamergeekgirl_otter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you I would tell her because it maybe something she is williing to work on for you. Also maybe if you get 2 passes for a gym and the two of you could get in shape together might make it easier for her to feel more comfortable! But I would not leave someone just because of weight without offering to help the problem first. But you should really talk to her about it. Who ever said you should just leave and not say anything is crazy! And heartless.
2006-10-13 05:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope (close but nope) You looking at it all wrong, You have more than those few options. When you tell a woman she isverweight she gets defensive. But you can still help her with out actually saying "You are overweight" Cook her a healthy dinner. Invite her for a nice walk or bike ride. Join a gym and say, you know, it would be so supportive and helpful if you came to. I just have no motivation and I think you will get me motivated.
2006-10-13 05:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by terra_chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, with us woman. Sometimes you have to go around the bush.
So make it as a New Years Resoulutoin.
Say hunny, lets go to the gym together. I want to get more toned up. I want my arms to look like Vin Diesel.
How about you? Then she will say why you think Im fat? Then you say no hunny. I think since we are getting older we should start taking care of our bodies more. Eat more healthier. I dont want to feel like Im 75.
Then she will do it. Knowing that you want to make that change with her.
Hopefuly it works. Was she always big when you were together? How did this happen?
2006-10-13 05:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by butterflyangel1013 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her? If so, tell her you're concerned about her health. Tell her you think the 2 of you should join and gym and start to eat healthier. Even if you don't need to lose weight, you could still benefit from a balanced diet and exercise. Be her support. Chances are, she'd love to lose some weight.
2006-10-13 05:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dasher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell her you're losing your attraction for her but it doesn't mean you don't love her. She can't be happy being overweight and probably already suspects that you don't like her weight either. Are you willing to help her try to lose? Join a Gym with her?
2006-10-13 05:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by MCS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you think you are fat and suggest that she come to the gym with you so that you can lose some weight. Make the whole thing about you. Hopefully she might start to look at herself if you are discussing the fat topic but about yourself not her.
Reverse psychology !!!!!!!
2006-10-13 05:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok next time she tries to rigidity a supplement out of you, tell her "huh what?... what's that?" and proceed doing even if you have been doing and forget approximately her. you are able to advance her physique image by utilising complementing her greater on issues you like, whilst she would not anticipate it. this way she can not contemplate whether you're in simple terms saying that because of the fact she positioned you instant or in case you certainly think of it.
2016-11-28 03:41:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋