its because you talk so much drivel! and you choose to spout this inane drivel when us men are trying to listen to our favourite music or watchin (MoTD) match of the day!! stop spouting and wait for an opportune moment before boring us, about dresses, shoes, boots or who ur gfrnd is now seeing! please i beg!
2006-10-13 05:18:59 · 62 answers · asked by adriboff 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ME it was a rhetorical question!! do you know what that means even??
2006-10-13 05:48:37 · update #1
so far 60 answers to your question, and most not realising you are doing it to get a rise out of them, this wont get you a nice girl you know
2006-10-14 10:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drivel to a man is all those things most times. LOL And then they talk about how they feel. Another foreign thing to a man. Why men don't listen? And you got all the women responding to your question and not many men. Who knows? It could be very primal, we only listen for what threatens are well being or the well being of the family unit. It could have been learned from the way our fathers acted with our mothers.
The other side of the coin is, Why do women speak at the most worst possible moment? Well, women tend to talk about anything, that is their primal role and the discussion creates a bond within the unit, usually with the other women. Try it on men, all they think with is the sexual organs. It's either sex or its substitute hunting game for food or sports. All hormones. Then if the woman talks about her feelings, the male mind will go blank. Does not compute. LOL. Oh yeah, she may be just doing it to get a little attention since you are not paying attention to her.
Personally, I could care less about some sports, actually watching most sports is boring. Having been single for 50 years, I learned what was important to me. And it was not sitting for 2-4 hours watching men beat themselves up. Once in a while when it is special maybe. I have watched maybe one super bowl in my lifetime. Usually I was out playing golf or doing something else with my life.
It takes a lot of work to listen to a female sometimes.
Don't beg, make a choice, listen for a few minutes and give her the attention. Learn to say uh-uh and put the SAP on while you watch TV. You might learn something about her in the meantime.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 05:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by gbdelta1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why did you ask the question, if you were just going to answer it yourself? LOL. It is nice to be listened to, it makes us feel that we are important and what we have to say is important. I do believe you have a point about taking an opportune moment.. You cant rabble on all day long about drivel, but at the same time, dont expect us to be ready 24/7 to listen to your work woes, pub tales and equally boring drivel about fishing, cars and football.. ! :(
2006-10-13 05:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, it may be wronge of us, to complain that Men dont listen to us. There are times, Men DONT listen to what we have to say. And there are times you men hear, yet dont respond as we would like you to. Women want their man to listen to them, or at least show that they are doing so. Women and Men are totally diffrent, we hear or have something happen to us or someone else and want to share it with, "that someone special" in their lives (being a husband or Boyfriend) Though on your side, it feels we women are complaining or annoying you, just relax, Stop that favorite music Cd & (MoTD) match of the day, listen to what your girl is trying to say, give a answer, smile and we are Happy!
Its really not that Hard, We women just want some listening Men!
2006-10-13 05:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Such A Chicka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women relate by talking (sharing feelings and information); men relate by shared action (playing sports together, watching TV together).
It may not be important information (just like each individual play in a game is not important to the overall outcome), but the act of sharing it is. She's trying to get closer to you - why, I'm not sure, if you rant like this all the time and care so little about her.
You're gonna be single again real fast unless you learn to compromise - show an interest in what she talks about, and get her rooting for your favorite in the match of the day.
2006-10-13 05:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men ahve a tension span of 0.000005 in nano seconds. You get easily distracted and don't listen to us women. I bet you that if your wife was telling you something while driving and a blonde jogged by with a red shirt and short shorts on you would turn quick which is a natural reaction. Well i know guys don't care about all this stuff but at least pretend like you care and maybe you will get lucky at teh end of the night (hint hint)
2006-10-13 05:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not one of these women that complain my hubby don't listen too me, actually I think my husband complains that I don't listen too him..lol..You're not married or have a girlfriend, right? I only ask that Q because I really don't think you would be dumb enough too write that Q if your were..lol.. BORE you with small talk about boots, shoes and etc??? Dang, when a woman talks too her guy about this stuff she is probably just wanting attention from her guy!!
2006-10-13 05:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the sort of girls you go out with are all lip gloss and no brains. Is that a reflection on you, I wonder? Why not try going out with someone who has some intelligence but then you may not be up to their standard and would not get a look in anyway.
2006-10-13 05:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
everything we say is not drivel. but if you ever paid any attention you would already know that. what we say may be something that you need to hear but no matter what time we try to tell you at you're always busy or at least not paying any attention. one day you will need to know what we said and we won't repeat it. so get off your high horse and listen. you are no better than anyone else.
2006-10-13 05:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by smallz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife that your mind is on other things at time. But be sure to set some time to listen and try to understand that women need to talk about things to you as well. It brings us closer to you. You may think they are trivial but stop and think about thier feelings and needs too. Conversation is part of the marriage.Tell her how you feel and discuss these issues.
2006-10-13 05:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by Butch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but you don't listen when we are trying to talk to you, when you are not doing anything, that is why it is hard on us woman, when you man play with are feelings, and for your information, all you man want us woman listen to all your complains, and we are there to listen, but the minutes it comes to us woman so you say, all we talk about is dresses, shoes, boots, so untrue, we have to sit there and listen to you guys complain what your so called buddies did to you at work, or who did what to who, Man are worse complainers then Woman, If they Are Not Complaining About there home front they are complaining about there Car and if it is not that it is about the Tv Program they are watching, or the music that they are listening to, or when they don't get there way with us WOMAN.. they all try to get what they want,, what is that saying want the cake and eat it to HMMM not lol doesn't work that way when you are in a relationship it has to work both ways here, the key word is COMMUNCATION.. and if you don't have that you don't have a relationship
2006-10-13 05:32:02 · answer #11 · answered by Smiling Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋