i was going out with this fella for three months and everything was going good between us, then about 2 or 3 weeks going me him my best friend and his best friend went out, my b.f and my best friend were talking all night to each other they were outside the door most of the night talking i got told they meet each other, i fell out with her, and dumped him, but we still text each other me and him, and its hurting me so much in side, beacuse i really like him, but all he wants is to be friends, why do i have them feelings for him after he done something like this to me, why am i such a fool for him. please tell me what you think i should do.
2006-10-13 05:14:09 · 29 answers · asked by laura m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ouch, this must hurt.
Losing your best friend and your boyfriend at the same time and them seeing each other.
Doesn't sound like you were a great judge of friends, but you are better off without them believe me.
It might hurt like crazy but you deserve better friends and you will find them if you look.
And remember it's nothing to do with you, it's just part of lifes learning experiences. They choose todo what they did. You are not responsible.
I would suggest however that you cut off from your ex boyfriend. Every time you see him or think of him you will remember the hurt. Time to move on, there may or not be someone who appears as good looking, great personality etc but don't let those things fool you they don't count as highly as commitment and loyalty.
move on, live your life
Go for it girl
2006-10-13 05:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it strange - Something similar happened to me about three years ago, We worked together and as I saw him so much, I just couldn't get over him. When he quit, It was easier but I still saw him occasionally and my heart would race. But then I quit and drifted away from the area and now I'm OK (just a little nostelgic when I hear our song!). I'm not saying you should move away unless you feel that would be a good idea - But take all areas of your life into consideration first. But it would be best to stop contact. Unless you think you can forgive him and simply accept that he just wants to be friends - Don't think you need to call him "your own" to enjoy his company - At least with friendship's - you don't need to make up lame excuses for not having to have sex all night! Good Luck. Xx
2006-10-13 05:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by Honeymist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only human. You let someone into your life, you trust and you let them into you heart. When it ends you feel let down and hurt because you felt so much. There isnt anyone can say to make things better, but it does, You will meet someone else and you will wonder why you were so upset and felt so much for this guy. You will soon see that it is just a blip in your life, its not important. Sometimes its best to end it, no just be friends. Do you feel like you could see him as just a friend? I think you would be happier drawing aline beneth this situation and moving forwards.
2006-10-13 05:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kawaii Noire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stop all contact with him that way he cant hurt you and you can move on. your so called best friend is a N O B and has no rite to be even considered a mate let alone a friend. ditch them both go out on your own and have some YOU time. your the most important person neither of them matter!! remember that.
he obviously isnt man enough for you is he he didnt even have the descency to tell you how he feels.
they belong together your too good for them both
2006-10-13 05:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm, its easy to say dont txt him nomore but i know where you are coming from. Its a tricky situation ... the best think is to sit down and write down what positive attitudes he has and what negative ones... then see the pro and cons and speak to someone you can really trust. If he just wants to be friends shows that he doesnt want you as his gf or that he doesnt want a gf at all. Concerning your ex friend ... she probly will go through the same like you in future... It takes time to heal a broken heart but take it as an experience to get stronger mindwise and dont let anybody trot on you again.
good luck
2006-10-13 05:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by stephangie2001de 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your feeling like that because he had you thinking that there was something good gonna come out of this relationship...then all of a sudden you find out he's been meeting up with your trampy mate what you need to do is stop texting him, dump him properly...Sim cards don't cost that much any more...don't give him your new number, and forget him....then go see your "skanky mate" and slap her in the mouth for betraying you, or better still hit on her man....I'm sure you'll feel better after that....
2006-10-13 05:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a fool, u were starting to fall for him its natural that you feel sad , it happen to me too, u have to let it go as bad as it sounds but if he did that to you hurt you and not say anything u better wait , only time will tell i do recommend to cut the contac for a while or not so constant cus keeping in touch after something like that mislead the situation and it can get worse ,i do think i need more details contact me if u want
2006-10-13 05:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by chill_in_pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your b.f to your best friend and find some other b.f - so that you vl be safe in two ways: Even if you want to leave the best friend and continue with the b.f., she may not leave ur b.f., Once you leave ur b.f., to your best friend - she can't disturb you when you find the next b.f., Wish you all the best.
2006-10-13 05:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Alrahcam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go out with other friends and meet someone new. He already made it clear he only want to be friends and you don't want to hang yourself, when there is probably mister right around the corner just waiting for you to get a clue that there to many guys out there to be waiting for some one that don't want you.
2006-10-13 05:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by leeky9339 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though he hurt you it doesnt mean that you stop loving him..it sometimes takes time to fall out of love with someone...Please dont have anything to do with this guy because you will only get hurt because he just wants your friendship..you cannot trust him either..It will take time but you will get over him and find a decent boyfriend who will not cheat on you with your friends.
2006-10-13 05:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋