my buddy is a geek who has a chance of getting married to a girl that already has two kids. he probably feels this is his one chance to get any girl. I tell him to run far , far away , but he is to stupid! can anyone give him advise? please!
2006-10-13 05:02:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The thing about this is that HE is the only one who knows if this is the right girl. The only people who know EXACTLY what the relationship is like are the people who are in it...you can't always see what it's really like from the outside.
You've already told him what you think, now just back off and let him make the decision himself.
2006-10-13 05:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by Leah M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you worried because she has two kids, or is there some other reason you think he should run?
My husband and I are both "geeks". When we met we each had one child from previous relationships. If your friend feels he's ready for the commitment and responsibilites that instant fatherhood will bring, then I'd say it's none of your business.
Frankly, I don't think there's enough detail here to answer the question helpfully. Having kids from previous relationships doesn't automatically make someone a bad person. Does your friend know the kids? Does he like them? Maybe he's always wanted to be a father and you never knew it?
The only thing you tell us about the relationship is that she has kids.
2006-10-13 12:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by gamergeekgirl_otter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is marrying a woman with children a bad thing, be a friend to your buddy and look for something actually wrong with the woman (other than the children thing, maybe that's your problem)
then advise him, and if the reason why he is marrying her is because he is desperate, don't u think that should be the reason he should not marry her, and that would not be very smart! but really, you have to come better than that if the reason for u not wanting him to marry her is the children thing, u have to be careful what u say to your buddy, u could really ruin his chance for real happiness. Do the right thing!
2006-10-13 12:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will totally agree with you. If he says he's marrying the girl for the reason being she's the only girl he can get, then marriage is not right. He should marry her out of love not because out of no hope of finding anyone for him. Also the girl that has two kids are also can be issue. I am not saying marrying the girl with kids are wrong. Usually, the girl with the kids go with the guy for mainly marriage/serious relationship, perhaps looking for the men to father the kids/father figure. So if she wants to marry him out of love, then so be it. If not, he shouldn't consider her for marriage.
2006-10-13 12:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Dj Noeck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you telling him to run away? Is she a bad person, bad mother? What is wrong with a woman who has two kids? My husband married me and I had one kid. If he has a chance of happiness, all I can say is to support him and be his friend.
2006-10-13 12:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Littles 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him that she isn't the right person for him, and that he will have more chances to be happy with someone else. Also that he is a good guy and that if girls can't see that, then it's because he is to good.
2006-10-13 12:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by aeshaw22895 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Went through this twice with friends marrying people they shouldn't. My best friend and his wife though are extremely happy and expecting their first child but my other friend is completely miserable.
All you can do is give him your advice and hope he listens. If he doesn't listen all you can do is stand by him and be there if times get tough.
2006-10-13 12:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because 2 kids are warning bells for you doesn't mean he shouldn't marry her. You should stay out of it. You gave him your opinion already.
2006-10-13 12:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can tell him straight out that he is pussy whipped, and a lot of men are.
Have you ever seen them together? does she treat him like crap?
do you know if he's really happy or not or do you know FOR SURE that he is marrying her for just-in-case-someone-else-never-comes-along?
I know this isn't real guy-ish but sit him down and talk to him, find out what HE wants then support him as his friend
2006-10-13 12:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point any advice is futile. Just be prepared to stand by him as a friend when and if he needs you.
2006-10-13 12:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋