I spent a week with a guy whilst he was on holidays recently. In between his next visit we txted one another frequently and spoke a couple of times. We spent another night together. That was three weeks ago and since he left again we have exchanged over 40 texts and have spoken 5 or so times. He texts every day, calls when he says he is going to and has been very attentive. He lives about 20 hours from where I live. I am seeing him in 2 weeks time.. Where do you think this is able to go from here.. I dont want to ask him for anything definite.. but how do I approach the future? I think about him all the time.
2006-10-13 04:58:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi!
This is a bit of a tricky situation, isn't it? To start off, do you know for sure that he is available? Do you know what you want out of a relationship right now? Do you know if he will fit into your life?
If I were you, I would be up front and honest. Ask him if he would like your relationship to go any further. Find out if he has time for a long distance relationship right now and if he has time to fit you into his life. If he is interested in making the relationship go further and has time for it in his life, then great! The two of you can have a very emotionally filling relationship over a long distance. Me and my fiance started off that way and each time we've met it's been even better than the last. Long distance relationship really make you apreciate all the good things that most couples take for granted, like how one person walks or the look on his face when he wakes up in the morning...
I hope I've been of some help,
~~Cari
2006-10-13 05:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Cari Malmström 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds interested. Let him know how you feel. Don't come out and ask him "so, where is this going?". That might scare him off. I would just be honest about how you feel and ask him how he feels about you.
Be aware though that long distance relationships are very hard and take a lot of work. Good luck to you!
2006-10-13 12:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sydney'sMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are really hard and frustrating. Even if he does send you 40 texts a day you are going to get lonely sooner or later. Don't get me wrong...some long distance relationships work, but most of them don't. I would try to find somebody withing 30 minutes of were you are.
2006-10-13 12:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's very obvious that he likes you. I don't know where you can go from there it all depends on on you and the guy. Approach the future one day at a time.
2006-10-13 12:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by rhianon_elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel. He'll never know unless you say somethin'. Yeah you run the chance of him not feeling the same way, but what if he does & he would like it to go further? Like that old sayin..it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.
2006-10-13 12:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let things as they are and don't throw a good thing away. Take it one step at a time.
2006-10-13 12:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by roni_lane81981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you and him can compremize and work it out some how go see him often have him come see you often and go on a little trip with him and see where it go further from there from jullie
2006-10-13 12:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by Julie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it one step at a time.
2006-10-13 12:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go slow. Think before you leap.
2006-10-13 12:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch girl long distance does not work not long term it just don't
2006-10-13 12:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by sexyandsingle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋