Although we walk on egg shells when around her (she lives out of state), we try to keep a good relationship with her. She purposely tries to get everyone upset by saying and doing different things to "start something". We love her, but she hurts us and always want to fight. What to do, to keep a good relationship?
2006-10-13 04:53:44 · 5 answers · asked by tobeyp2005 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have been where you are, and you have my deepest sympathies.
Sometimes our children grow into beings that we cant understand or condone. It sounds to me like this daughter is in dire need of being the center of all attention and is willing to do anything and hurt anyone to stay there. Maybe this in not bi-polar, but, a lack of impulse control and a marked immaturity.
I hate to say it, but, have you considered the tough love approach? Set ground rules for her visits and communications, with clear cut limits and repercussions.
If all else fails, counseling may be the answer. If she wont go, you go anyway. A professional councilor may be able to give you the support and guidance you need to stay this daughters parent.
Good Luck.
2006-10-13 05:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by donamarie_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your daughter has bi-polar. It sounds more like she is just a miserable person and wants everyone else to feel the same way she does. Talk to her. Maybe she's depressed or maybe she doesn't like herself or something about herself. When we don't feel good about ourselves, we tend to project that to other areas of our life. I was diagnosed with bi-polar, depression and OCD about 10 years ago and I never did any of what your describing. If you still feel that is the case, get her to see a doctor.Bi-polar is not a cold. You can't self diagnos something like that on your own and you can't take care of it without some help. Either way, your daughter needs to talk to someone and get to the root of why she is so unhappy. Good luck.
2006-10-13 12:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by svg7373 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to keep a good relationship is to keep conversations very superficial. When you find her steering the conversation to dangerous grounds quickly change the subject or tell her you have to run. It doesn't sound like she is bipolar but just terrible unhappy and remember misery loves company.
2006-10-13 12:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to get her help or evaluated formally? That is the first step in managing this disorder -- and it can include therapy and medication management.
2006-10-13 12:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her to go on medication.
2006-10-13 11:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋