so, Im not pregnant or anything but this creeped me out and I need an opinion. My boyfriend';s sister just had a baby and his mom was in the room, watching her give birth...which is kinda wierd. I wouldnt want my crazy mom in the room when Im under pressure and I REALLY wouldnt want her looking at my...you know. Well, his mom said that if he and I ever get married and have kids, she REALLY wants to be in the room to watch her grandbaby be born. while thats really sweet of her to hope that her son and I stick together and its sweet that she wants to be involved....thats kinda freaky! Im only 21 and he and I havent been dating long so its not like this situation will arise anytime soon.....but still. I mean, would you guys be okay with that? If not, how would you say no without pissing her off?
2006-10-13 04:37:18 · 18 answers · asked by katie-bug 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My daughter-in law had her mom,dad,grandma, aunts and uncles in the room when she had her baby-- gross ! My husband and I stayed in the hall .- Sorry I think that is a time for the wife and hubby only
2006-10-13 04:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've given birth twice and from my experience after all the doctor visits and exams, you're not that shy when the time comes. With my first son, my husband was there but I wanted my mom more than anyone there with me. And back then they took you to the delivery room and one person was allowed to go with me. But my mom was there and they didn't have time to ask the Dr. if she could go in too. So she got to go in with me.
When I had my second son, they had the delivery suite then. And my husband, his sister, his mom, and my mom were all present for the birth. And to be honest, I didn't care who was there as long as the doctor got the baby out and it was healthy. Because when you hear your baby cry for the first time, it's a sound you never forget and I was so happy, I wouldn't have cared if the President had been there either time.
But if you think it would make you uncomfortable the in a very nice way let her know. Because this is all about you, your husband, and most importantly the baby.
2006-10-13 14:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first child I was all proper making sure my gown covered my bottom and only wanted hubby and mom in the room with me. This went on until about 4 hours into it and the pain (I had no pain relief by choice) I could have cared less who was in the room, or they had a marching band come through...... I was not thinking about the people around me at that point.
In the end it's a beautiful and magical experience and there is NOTHING to be ashamed of.
2006-10-13 12:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply tell her that I would not feel comfortable with anyone else in the room except the father and the hospital staff. I so agree with you, I will not have my birthing experience turn into a side show and neither my parents or my husband parents need to see that part of me, I am not on display I am having a child. It is not the most wonderful thing to be up in stirrups with your whole body exposed and people walking in and out checking you out down there, like you are a display of some sorts.
2006-10-13 11:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a matter of opinion and comfort level of the people involved. Some are just curious and want to see how it looks to have a baby, and compare it with how it felt when she had the baby long ago.....It's like being watched when you have sex. Some don't mind, while others are offended or insulted. Just explain that you are not comfortable with the audience, like you're not comfortable with her being in the bathroom with you while you do your business, etc. And if they get mad, so what. They have a major attitude problem. And you can request the doctor/hospital to bar all relatives, except husband, etc. and they will, because of patient confidentality laws. If they don't, you can sue.
2006-10-13 11:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 20 yrs. old and i have a 6month old son. I thought that it was going to be freaky to to have my mom and my now ex boyfriend in the room with me, but it turned out that it was better because i needed their support especially my mom's. You are in so much pain that you don't even care who is watching you. I think that it is better to have a female in there with you too because if they have gone through that experience, then they will know what to say and do. Good luck. Just be sure that he is the one because i am in a bad situation right now. Don't rush.
2006-10-13 12:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Hot Mami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be your choice IF & WHEN the time comes - depending on the sort of relationship you had with the M-I-L;
my thinking would be that you would want your own mother if anybody'
from experience though when you get to that stage you dont really care who is there looking as there are already a number of "" strangers"" i.e:- nursing staff etc & there is certainly no room for dignity where natural childbirth is concerned
my daughter has had 2 children& people asked me if I was going to be in the labour ward with her & my preference was NO - as I feel that is a time for the husband & wife to share . if for some reason my daughters husband could not have been there & she wanted me to be then I would have done so
2006-10-13 11:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens in the birthing room is all up to you and by then you may change your mind. I had my kids with others in the room. At some point you don't care who is in there and who's looking at what...you just want the baby out!! If the doctors/nurses notice that people in the room make you uncomfortable they will kick them out for you.
2006-10-13 11:40:54 · answer #8 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on.....
this is not all that new of an idea i mean my wife just gave birth to our son who is now 1 month old and her mom and my mom held her legs while she pushed!! and she loved it.
you might change your mind after you get pregnant but even if you don't which is totally up to you since it is your ......... well you know,
that every in the room will be looking at
so just tell her in a nice way that you are shy and very privet and would just like your hubby and the doc. in the room you can even get the the doc to say it. ask him if he will just tell every one that the room is to small for other people in there.
hope this helps :)
2006-10-13 11:44:45 · answer #9 · answered by 32606 3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be OK with that,when I was giving birth my partner wasn't very sympathetic to the pain I was in,looking back I would have loved my mum there with me,she would have known what I was going through and would have been a brilliant support,seeing her grandson born would have been a great joy to her too.
2006-10-13 11:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by fairyb04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋