I am going on a date with a guy I met on the net on a dating site tomorrow and I really really think he is nice. I am sooo nervous tho and hope that he will like me! What do you think?
2006-10-13 04:25:16 · 34 answers · asked by feehilan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been talkin to him for ages on the phone and net, he is deffo not an ax murderer haha oh and somoene you meet out in a nite club could be an ax murderer too...dont want advice bout how I met him, only about how to get rid of my nerves...
2006-10-13 04:29:19 · update #1
1. Be careful - eventhough he seems nice online he may be quite different in person. Make sure your friends, Mother, Father know where you are going and its in daylight or in a very public place.
Have a cell and if the plans change you go somewhere make sure you call someone your family and friend and tell them exactly where you are going (address)
2. have fun - give the guy a chance and get to know him, ask some questions, think about what you will ask him, be general not specific, keep away from ex gfs and don't be dramatic and tell too much at first about yourself, where you live exactly details about your family
3. Most important - be yourself because you are unique and there is some reason why this guy picked you to go out and most likely it is honorable
Have fun but BE SAFE
2006-10-13 04:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same shoes as i had a date with someone i met on the net a few weeks ago. First, meet in a public place. The reason for this cannot be overemphasised. I hope you have his pictures so at least, you'll have an idea of how he looks like.
Be yourself. Yes, it will be awkward at first but as you talk more, you will loosen up. Make sure you never leave your drink on the table and then go to the loo as he can drug it. Also, don't let him escort you home. Yes, there are stalkers, rapists e.t.c. The final one is important. After 4 or more dates, you will be the one to decide if he's normal enough to now know your house. Oh and don't go to his house either.
2006-10-13 04:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing though this is from the guy end, Im male, and it was fine bit nerve wracking but the moment we met it was ok they are probably as nervous just show an interest in them if you let them do the talking it is easier, and for safety sake tell someone where you will be and have them call you to check at an assigned time the girl I met did this and I though it was pretty sensible, good luck!
2006-10-13 04:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by stephen m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. I believe it goes without saying to make sure that you have all of your bases covered safety-wise. (Don't get in his car, or let him get in your car, tell someone you know and trust where you'll be, etc.) So, as far as how to relax... make sure that you give yourself plenty of time to prepare for the date. Rushing around before a big date can just add to stress. Take a long bath and listen to some nice music to help yourself relax before you meet him. When you do meet him just smile and be yourself. Remember, he decided that he liked you for who you are without even having met you in person. Also remember that he's probably a little nervous too. The more time you spend in each other's company the more you will relax. Be safe and best of luck to you!
2006-10-13 04:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by Little Girl Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u know all the warnings that people have given u. make sure it`s in a very public place wen u meet him. ok that said, how many times have u dreaded something and wen u got there u found there was nothing at all to worry about? we all make that mistake. u fear the unknown like we all do. try keep an open mind. u can bet ur life he will be nervous too. just greet him wiv a smile and take things from there. i`m very sure things wont be as bad as u think.
2006-10-13 05:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're meeting at a public place - that he's not picking you up at home. Remember, he may seem nice, but, on line you can lie very easily - including pictures.
Stay safe - meet him someplace public - and have an exit plan if you need one/
Sorry if I seem like your mother lecturing you, but I probably am old enough for that role. And, I've watched several of the Dateline episodes on predators.
I do hope you have a good time, and that he is everything he said he was - just use your common sense.
2006-10-13 04:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by kids and cats 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself don't try to impress or you'll end up looking silly.Just be careful I had 2 dates off a Internet dating site and not good experiences although I also had chatted for several weeks to both the guys,and however nice he seems don't go anywhere in a car with him.Be safe and don't drink to much ,let someone know where you are going and take a mobile with you...hell you have me worried let us all know how it goes.
2006-10-13 04:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being nervous for a first date isn't a bad thing. That's part of what makes it fun. Just be careful. You might want to tell your friends where you are going and have them secretly be there as well. That way you're safe, since you did meet him through a dating service. If you don't want them there, be sure to send them text messages to update them throughout the night of where you are. It may sound a little obsessive, but you want to be safe. Have fun!!
2006-10-13 04:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by ChaseMakesMeSmile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i wouldn't recommened going on dates like that but more power to you. You should be nerbous (of course) but since he hasn't had an actual face to face encounter with you, you have a chance to make the best first impresion you can. Try to go out of your boundries and make him say "this girl is hot!" Make yourself seem cool and laid back and in control even if u are extra nervous. The more comfortable he sees you, the more he will feel comfortable aorund you.Thats just my opinion. Good Luck
2006-10-13 04:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by shababe07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people are nervous on a first date - it's natural.
See how you are once you start talking with him. If the words are not coming out properly, just tell him that you are feeling a little nervous. He will understand.
Don't worry. Enjoy your date.
2006-10-13 04:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋