My lease on my apartment is over in six months, I have three roommates (one being my boyfriend). Me and my boyfreind been together for about six years, we been through hell and back. I was kicked out of my house and so was he (different times), so we decided to move out with our friends. Now that I live with him, everything is different, we argue, we fight, throw things, YOu name it we've done it!! I just turned 21, and started going out more with friends that I never use to hang out with, since I had a boyfriend there was no tension in going out. I'm out drinking, guys flirting, and buying me things. My boyfriend goes out too, and doesn't come hom ever. I want to date other guys, and I don't think that is fair because we been through too much together, and for me to up and leave him makes me feel like a bit*h. He was my first and only boyfriend, and I never use to care about getting with other guys. my babe paid my bills, fix my car, help me with rent =( Is this fair to him?
2006-10-13 04:25:12 · 14 answers · asked by Bebe760 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love isn't about fairness, it's about happiness and there are times when you have to look out for #1...you should atleast take a break from each other and date other people...if you two were meant to be together, then things will work out that way
2006-10-13 04:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by Maestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, it does not matter what you guys have been through in the past or what he has helped you with in the past. We aren't in the past right now. We are in the present and looking towards our futures. You need to evaluate the situation in the present, which it looks like you already have. If you feel that it is wise to see other people, you need to voice your opinion about that. Chances are, if he is not coming home ever, then he feels the same way too. I had the same thing happen to me where we moved in together and then all of a sudden started fighting and miscommunicating, we had been through a lot together, but eventually split. Living together was just not a good idea. But we remain friends. You should try just taking a break.
2006-10-13 11:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by ladyophelia7777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you all have been through a lot together and like you both have started moving on. If you really feel this way don't string him along and don't wait til he comes home to say he's with someone else. Your only 21 so why should you have to settle for someone that you don't really want to be with. Find someone who makes you happy and let him do the same. The only thing that may be complicated is your living arragement. But I think you can work that out, Good Luck.
2006-10-13 11:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mommyof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the both of you are ready to move on. 6 years is a long time but it seems you have grown to find out that you now want something else. it happens. Talk to your bf and see if he feels the same. Good luck with everything
2006-10-13 11:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by discover_every_inch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are ready to move on and experience life as a single adult!
The relationship you now have is one of a "kept woman" if he is paying all the bills. You need to learn to be independent before you can walk into a long-term relationship called marriage and family.
I think it is time the two of you sit down for a honest, quiet talk where each of you discusses your goals in life, short and long term.
2006-10-13 11:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not fair that he can go out and stay out all night and then you go out and we have a problem. You should not argue all the time anyway an argument every now and then happens but to do it all the time is not cool RUN!!!!!! But Good Luck with that let him know how you feel
2006-10-13 11:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Drea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should talk to him and put the cards on the table .. tell him how u feel and how dis situation its affecting ur relationship.. u said that he paid ur bills . fix ur car .. da doesnt mean da u have to be with him forever if the relationship its not working anymore so talk to him and then u can decide wut to do and be honest with him but dont waste ur time ur 2 young to be in a relationship like dis ..its not worth it if the only thing u guys do its fight .. remember if theres no respect theres no love theres no nothing so think about it and good luck :)
2006-10-13 11:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Forbidden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the right thing to do is for you two to live in seperate places. If you continue to date each other, you will both need a place to be alone sometimes. If you don't want to date him anymore, cut him loose. Let you both find happiness.
2006-10-13 11:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 21. Forget him, think about the stress you deal with by his actions...Is this fair to you?
2006-10-13 11:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He goes out, and he doesn't come home....... yet, you go out and you do come home. Is this fair? You wanting to date other guys? I say YES it is fair, because on those nights that he isn't coming home.......... who is he getting cozy with???? Not you. BLessed be.
2006-10-13 11:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋